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[Audioworm333]

Really. Sometime in the Winter(I think - maybe it was Spring), I had took some test thingy..I forgot.. and they thought I needed a psychologist. I thought it was my mom who thought I needed one, and I was rather angry at her for thinking that.

Looking at my life now, though, maybe it's not such a bad idea after all.

I'm having a pretty bad case of the blues. Lots of things have made me rather depressed lately. I'm convinced that life is meaningless and basically exists to torture me as much as possible before I die. I'm pretty close to joining my dad in thinking I'm only alive for God to toy with me. Sometimes I find myself wishing I could get up the guts to knife myself.

You guys are probably going to call me a fucknut and tell me that I suck at life.

In hindsight, I don't even know why I posted this here.

[Stargrasper]

So just man up and get a psychiatrist.  They can do wonders to help you.

Or brainwash you.  Either way you'll end up actually enjoying life.

[Haschel]

Being on medication will make you feel better as long as you're being prescribed correctly. It'll make you feel happier about life in general, and you might end up being more productive given the right motivation/circumstances. There are downsides I'm sure, but since I have something rather different from generic depression, I can't rightfully tell you what that may be. I can tell you that after a few months of not feeling like shit, you'll look back in hindsight and see that depression is a pretty needlessly terrible situation to be living with.

What country you're living in could be important to what kind of care you're actually getting, you might want to research that a bit if possible because there really are bad psychiatrists (I know there are plenty in the US). One of the most common mistakes is under-prescribing medications, which just wastes your time and money. But that's not something for you to decide, self medicating is a dangerous mistake. Just try to find a psychiatrist that actually listens to your issues and actively tries to find a balance that works for you.

[Grimshot]

 I felt a lot like you not to long ago. With some effort on my part and an epiphany I managed to get out of my depression, which lasted for over ten years or more.

 I would recommend you go see a psychiatrist too, it may not be easy to talk to someone about it but its better than risking a decade of your life. I would also recommend however that you not jump on the medication bandwagon right away. Make an effort to try to fix whatever issues you have without it first. You'll be thankful you did if it turns out you didn't need meds. Thats not possible for everyone though and sometimes medication is the only way. Just remember that throwing meds at the problem is a last resort.

 Oh, and don't worry about posting here about this stuff. Talking helps a lot, even over the internet. It sure helped me a lot. Also, feel free to visit the sad thread from time to time and post anything thats getting you down there.

[sgt0pimienta]

Really. Sometime in the Winter(I think - maybe it was Spring), I had took some test thingy..I forgot.. and they thought I needed a psychologist. I thought it was my mom who thought I needed one, and I was rather angry at her for thinking that.

Looking at my life now, though, maybe it's not such a bad idea after all.

I'm having a pretty bad case of the blues. Lots of things have made me rather depressed lately. I'm convinced that life is meaningless and basically exists to torture me as much as possible before I die. I'm pretty close to joining my dad in thinking I'm only alive for God to toy with me. Sometimes I find myself wishing I could get up the guts to knife myself.

You guys are probably going to call me a fucknut and tell me that I suck at life.

In hindsight, I don't even know why I posted this here.

I spent some time depressed,not as much,but well...my country is a country in development,not as developed like U.S.A or others,so,some things here are new,im a great fan of videogames,huge,im developing (not really,just self teaching) one,well...what happened at school is that i had some temper problems a YEAR ago,but noone cared if i had changed,also,im not into fashion,oh,and im a "nerd" just because i like videogames,i am mature and don't care and care about some stuff that my fellow classmates don't understand.

basiclly this horrible mix of things together with a shitload of unbalanced boys and preppy girls made me the perfect individual for social diecrimination,i had absolutely no friends because noone cared about me,i couldn't talk to anyone about things i like,want,or am interested in because i would be rejected by everyone,they all thought they knew me so well...heheh,they didn't know anything about me...and the worse of all was they didn't because they dodn't want to,so i was marked with tons of insults,a lot of prejudice,they didn't evengive me a chance

Also,in my house,i couldn't talk to my father because he worked ALL day in his office far away,sand my mom didn't want to hear what i had to say,it was a time in wich they were both overwhelmingly stressed so i had to go through this completely alone,the only people in the world that helped me during that time was my best friend,Yunuen.

But do you wan't to know how i fixed that?
i..."disconnected" from other people for some weeks and figured myself out,when i went back from some vacations i had made my choice,i would do what i want and be who i am even if everyone butchered me for that,everyone butchers me for that,but i always knew there were people who would be my friends regardless,so what i did...i severed all connections with my group and started from zero,most of them will remember like the nerdy idiot of the clasroom,but im sure of what i am and i don't care,now i got a bunch of cool friends,most of them aren't popular and are kind of a bit like me,but we really don't care,actually,one day a classmate came and told me that if i wanted to be popular and have friends i had to stop hanging with my REAL friends....you know what i told him? i told him: I don't give a shit about popularity,about false friends and earned respect,this are my real friends,and i won't give them up just like that.

That is my story of depression,it wassn't that hard and most of it changed because while i figured myself out alone,while i matured a bit more some stuff clicked in my brain,i took out the drama,and i stoped giving a shit about what others thought (of course,i still work in groups and fix that stuff,don't think i closed myself and i don't care about others,i meant i don't care about what others wanted me to be)

I know that that ussn't such a huge problem,i never ever wanted to suicide...but,you will make it,because you can,NEVER be afraid to ask for help,i spent such a hard time because i had absolutely NO help (but from my friend,Yunuen),actually,coming and saying that in public,in front of the whole DF communtity shows you have the strenght and confidence to overcome this!

[eerr]

Really. Sometime in the Winter(I think - maybe it was Spring), I had took some test thingy..I forgot.. and they thought I needed a psychologist. I thought it was my mom who thought I needed one, and I was rather angry at her for thinking that.

Looking at my life now, though, maybe it's not such a bad idea after all.

I'm having a pretty bad case of the blues. Lots of things have made me rather depressed lately. I'm convinced that life is meaningless and basically exists to torture me as much as possible before I die. I'm pretty close to joining my dad in thinking I'm only alive for God to toy with me. Sometimes I find myself wishing I could get up the guts to knife myself.

You guys are probably going to call me a fucknut and tell me that I suck at life.

In hindsight, I don't even know why I posted this here.

I am very certain that ALL winter-related depression is either caused, or magnified, by lack of sun.

[Knight of Fools]

If you don't want to see a doctor, there's a few things you can do to mitigate or even eliminate some forms of depression.  This is mostly from personal experience - I was going through some debilitating depression, so I did what you did by asking advice from different people.  I experimented with what I was given, and found something that worked for me.  I still have my ups and downs, but I'm doing a lot better than I was.  The odd thing is that it didn't take very many life changes to improve, so take what I have to say worth a grain of salt and think on it.


First off, you need to eat right.  Energy is directly linked to mood, so be sure that you're getting enough healthy foods, and be sure that you're getting plenty of them.  If this has a side effect of you going online to find some healthy recipes, all the better.  Avoid sodas and caffeinated beverages until you start feeling better - Crashing off of caffeine, along with the sugar in most drinks, won't help your mood at all.  If you're eating too much, you should lay off the unhealthy foods, but keep eating normal amounts, unless it's excessive.

Second, find something to do outside, like eerr said.  The sun is wonderful - It gives you vitamin D and improves your mood.  Dwarves may be able to live without the sun, but us humans are a little less tolerant of being inside all the time.  I highly recommend picking up jogging or performing some cardiovascular support at least 20 - 30 minutes at a time every day, because the endorphin and testosterone rush will lift your mood as well.  This is one of the biggest things that gets me out of my low times.  If you want to do weight lifting, limit yourself to once every two days and start off with low weights.  Getting larger muscles (Or tighter tendons, if you're like me)  If you're not used to exercise at all, take it slow.  Start running every other day or so to get yourself used to it, and push yourself from there.

Taking care of yourself in general is a good idea.  Proper hygiene, sleeping regular hours, and even doing your hair in the morning can make you feel better.

Third, explore your social muscles.  A lot of the time depression can come from lack of sincere communication.  There's not a lot of advice I can give on how to open up to people, because I don't quite understand it myself.  It took me a while to figure it out, but taking off the mask I wore to hide my depression and openly sharing my feelings with those around me helped a lot.  This is probably the hardest one to figure out, but having some good face-to-face relationships is a great pick-me-up.  If you don't know where to start, just try being nice to people and doing nice things for them.  You'll figure it out eventually.

Lastly, find something you can grow or improve upon.  I don't care if it's a plant, a skill, a puzzle, or a car.  Doing something you can get some tangible improvements from, such as how large the plant is or the growing number of sketches in your portfolio, makes you feel good.  Mow and water the lawn, keep a garden, draw pictures, write a book.  The more tangible, the better, though, so beware of cheap digital imitations.


I'm guessing you're entering adulthood right now (17 - 24 years old) or going through puberty.  If that's the case, you're going to be going through rough spots regardless of what you do, but there's a lot of stuff you can do to mitigate the chemical chaos going on in your body.  If you find that life style changes don't improve things, it may be time to seriously sit down and think about whether or not this is something you can control or not, but that's a ways off.  You can still do what you can regardless, it just takes a little action to get some things done and some honest introspection.

Sorry if I rambled a bit.  It's a little awkward talking about a problem I've holed up for so long.  Just do what you can, and things will get better.

[Maggarg - Eater of chicke]

Lurk in your room and listen to impenetrably artsy music and post about it on the internet.

/mylife.

[G-Flex]

Knight of Fools is right about a lot of things here. Eating well, sleeping well, getting exercise, and being productive can do wonders.

However, if you feel you might make use of it, then therapy might be a good idea. I would recommend seeing a therapist at first, though, not a psychiatrist; from what I've seen (first and second hand), a lot of psychiatrists will be perfectly happy prescribing you damn near anything after meeting with you for a half-hour, and often do little else for you, and I'm not sure that's a great starting point. Medication is always an option, but I'd start with counseling/therapy.

[lordcooper]

(Wo?)Man up and make that depression your bitch.  Seriously, you're not gonna that a little thing like that beat you, are ya?

[Grimshot]

 I may just being overly sensitive about this but I think this problem should be taken more seriously. Its not really something that is a "little thing" and it can't be solved with just "(Wo?)Maning up". I understand what your intention was but, assuming Audioworm is anything like me, it will just make it worse. Its not a good feeling to have a problem thats causing you significant distress considered insignificant and easy to defeat. My family tends to do this to me, and to put it bluntly, it makes me very, very angry. So I want to apologize if I'm being too harsh.

 Well, time to relax and get back to more pleasant things .

[lordcooper]

Hmm, either you misunderstand me or we're just very different people.  I didn't mean to belittle anyone's experiences, just to show what I consider to be the best and easiest way to fix the OPs problem.  I most certainly am taking this seriously, and have reason to believe that my suggestion is in fact one of the most effective ways of solving it.  Perhaps I should have expanded upon that a little though, hopefully my half asleep ramblings will show what I mean better.

Disclaimer:  I'm not a doctor or a shrink.  Everything below is my heartfelt opinion, but the only evidence I have is anecdotal.

I've suffered with pretty extreme depression in the past, reaching the point where I wouldn't get out of bed before 6pm (or at all some days,) couldn't see a purpose to anything and was basically living a life devoid of any form of happiness or pleasure.  I was fully conscious of the fact that I was depressed and think that I may have begun using that as an excuse/justification as much as a valid reason.

One day I had a little epiphany and decided that instead of seeing it as this powerful, all encompassing thing pressing down on me, I would instead picture it as a spiteful little gobliny creature that only had the strength I gave it.  Over a fair period of time, I managed to 'make it my bitch' by positive self reinforcement and putting in real effort to turn my life/mental state around.  It really is a little thing, but one that will make itself appear as large as you let it.

My advice to the OP remains:

(Wo?)Man up and make that depression your bitch.  Seriously, you're not gonna that a little thing like that beat you, are ya?

The way that I did that was by setting myself frequent, yet easily achievable targets.  Try doing something small to improve your situation every day, take pride in it and stick that middle finger up at the goblin.  Once you get into that habit, try doing something to help out someone you care about 2-3 times a week.  Then add a good deed to a stranger once a week.  Increase as neccessary, being sure to constantly remind yourself how much more productive and helpful you are being.  If you're anything like me then your sense of self worth will skyrocket and eventually that little goblin will simply fade away.

Decide for yourself if you're facing a massive problem that will require years of drugs/therapy to overcome, or if it's a piddly little thing that you'll have beaten a month or two from now.  I sure know which I chose to face.  Like I said, wo/man up and realize you're stronger than this, because you most certainly are.

[Grimshot]

 I'm sorry, I guess the way you phrased the post just struck a nerve. Thanks for taking the time to go into detail about it.

[lordcooper]

I'm sorry, I guess the way you phrased the post just struck a nerve. Thanks for taking the time to go into detail about it.

No worries, I seem to be doing that a lot lately.  Guess that's just one more area I'll have to make more effort in, eh? 

Peace.

[Mictlantecuhtli]

Try pot out. And I don't say that out of sarcasm or anything else. Cannabis is actually a relatively good anti-depressant, depending on if it's your type of thing. I know for a fact that it helped me to overcome the more-or-less typical hardships of teenage life. If not, then it's not. But it's definitely not dangerous. If that doesn't give you a vastly altered view on life, then try the more conventional psycho-therapy route.


Either way, happiness comes from the inside, not from a program or a pill or even a lovely herb. That's my opinion. But then again, I'm not a happy person, merely apathetic.