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[Farmerbob]

Really. Sometime in the Winter(I think - maybe it was Spring), I had took some test thingy..I forgot.. and they thought I needed a psychologist. I thought it was my mom who thought I needed one, and I was rather angry at her for thinking that.

Looking at my life now, though, maybe it's not such a bad idea after all.

I'm having a pretty bad case of the blues. Lots of things have made me rather depressed lately. I'm convinced that life is meaningless and basically exists to torture me as much as possible before I die. I'm pretty close to joining my dad in thinking I'm only alive for God to toy with me. Sometimes I find myself wishing I could get up the guts to knife myself.

You guys are probably going to call me a fucknut and tell me that I suck at life.

In hindsight, I don't even know why I posted this here.

Depression is no joke.  Get help.  If you don't know where to start, call your local Alcoholics Anonymous, explain that you are not alcoholic, but are depressed and don't know where to turn, and they will certainly point you at a better source of help than you are likely to find on your own.

[Shook]

I have no experience with all-out depressions, but i do have a rather unstable mood sometimes, which can end up bordering depression for no reason at all. Although the following may seem naive and childish, i'm being quite sincere. Forcing a smile on your lips, regardless of how little it fits your mood, can actually make you happy again. This is because your mind is, by now, wired to connect smiling and happiness with each other, in a joyous cause-and-effect loop. In other words, you smile when you're happy, so you'll be happy when you smile. Give it a shot, you won't be wasting anything by doing it.

A bit of mind wandering can be helpful too, i've found. If you let your thoughts roam freely, you might eventually get tired of thinking about all the depressing shit, and suddenly your mind is frolicking in meadows and rainbows. This did happen to me more than once, but take it with a grain of salt, considering my mildly neurotic behaviour.

Also, what Knight of Fools said about improving skills and such? It works, a lot. About a year ago, i found myself being very down at just about every evening, possibly because i had nothing new to do. I then decided to pick up Game Maker, and start making a game i had in mind for a while. Not only did it feel great to exercise my creative muscles, i also got a lot of compliments from others. It doesn't matter if the compliments came from the internet, they're stilll people behind the nicknames. Although i never finished the game, my night-time depressions are few and far between now, because i know for sure that i'm not just a useless puppet, i can actually entertain others with what i do. And, my point with this: Do something creative! Making something - ANYTHING - feels great, and rightfully so. Write a story, a rant, ramble about something, anything goes. If you can't think of anything, ramble about how you feel. Getting it out will make you feel better.

Also, let me finish off by saying that regardless of what you think, people will gladly help you get out of a depression. You see all these helpful replies? People care about your well being. It's the same thing in real life. Losing a wonderful person like yourself to depression would be a loss for the world.

[Kogan Loloklam]

Well, looks like exercise and see a shrink statements are already taken, and for whatever reason I have decided to respond, so here is my solution to your problem...

Develop your breasts!
Apparently Male lactation is possible, and Breastfeeding is a natural way that Females have to cure Hormonal Instability postpartum.
So, there's my Off the wall answer.

It'll also give you something to talk to the shrink about at a later date

[simonthedwarf]

Hmm, either you misunderstand me or we're just very different people.  I didn't mean to belittle anyone's experiences, just to show what I consider to be the best and easiest way to fix the OPs problem.  I most certainly am taking this seriously, and have reason to believe that my suggestion is in fact one of the most effective ways of solving it.  Perhaps I should have expanded upon that a little though, hopefully my half asleep ramblings will show what I mean better.

Disclaimer:  I'm not a doctor or a shrink.  Everything below is my heartfelt opinion, but the only evidence I have is anecdotal.

I've suffered with pretty extreme depression in the past, reaching the point where I wouldn't get out of bed before 6pm (or at all some days,) couldn't see a purpose to anything and was basically living a life devoid of any form of happiness or pleasure.  I was fully conscious of the fact that I was depressed and think that I may have begun using that as an excuse/justification as much as a valid reason.

One day I had a little epiphany and decided that instead of seeing it as this powerful, all encompassing thing pressing down on me, I would instead picture it as a spiteful little gobliny creature that only had the strength I gave it.  Over a fair period of time, I managed to 'make it my bitch' by positive self reinforcement and putting in real effort to turn my life/mental state around.  It really is a little thing, but one that will make itself appear as large as you let it.

My advice to the OP remains:

(Wo?)Man up and make that depression your bitch.  Seriously, you're not gonna that a little thing like that beat you, are ya?

The way that I did that was by setting myself frequent, yet easily achievable targets.  Try doing something small to improve your situation every day, take pride in it and stick that middle finger up at the goblin.  Once you get into that habit, try doing something to help out someone you care about 2-3 times a week.  Then add a good deed to a stranger once a week.  Increase as neccessary, being sure to constantly remind yourself how much more productive and helpful you are being.  If you're anything like me then your sense of self worth will skyrocket and eventually that little goblin will simply fade away.

Decide for yourself if you're facing a massive problem that will require years of drugs/therapy to overcome, or if it's a piddly little thing that you'll have beaten a month or two from now.  I sure know which I chose to face.  Like I said, wo/man up and realize you're stronger than this, because you most certainly are.

I wanted to comment that setting yourself goals, and continually reviewing what you are spending time on and making small achievements through sizing up goals that are possible to fullfill is both professional and anecdotal advice. Psychiatrists and therapists actually have you do these things, and it works.

[Jelle]

Hey man if you want to take your life because you're convinced existence is meaningless, consider that being dead is just as meaningless a state of being as is being alive. If you think the fact that you can ponder on this matter is not something extraordinary in such a void lifeless universe, something that deserves to be preserved and thrive, then consider that there's no going back should you take the decision, a one way ticket you may or may not have come to regret, but you'll never know if you make it.
So you know, just enjoy the ride and make the life you want for yourself. You only get one shot at it, it's a waste to throw it away.

Erm that's my two cents I guess, I'm not sure why I posted this either, I'm no good at this. 

[The Mechanical Man]

First, listen to everyone else. They have tons of great advice. I don't have too much experience with this sort of thing, so listen to them first.

I've never been in all-out depression myself, but there are times when I've gotten very down in the dumps. I recently made this list to help me out and it's been working well.

1. Every day is a new day. Start each one fresh and free from yesterday's events.
2. A man decides his own destiny.
3. Use the opportunities of today to learn something new.
4. Skills become useless when they are not practiced or trained.
5. Do not dread upcoming tasks. Approach them ready and prepared.
6. Kindness, honesty, and honor are some of the most important traits.
7. Seek not only to better yourself, but to better others as well.
8. Any mortal task can be achieved with willpower, discipline, and hard work.
9. Do not look for happiness, let happiness find you.
10. Accept what has already happened. Do not doubt your decisions.
11. Never forget the values of friendship and love.

Hope some of those help you out a little bit.

Also, sometimes you just need to get outside and just find something enjoyable to do. The little things in life are really what makes it worth living. Help people out as well; do good things for strangers. It will make you feel good about yourself, studies prove it.

You think life is meaningless? Well, I'm not going to lie, in it's basic state it really is. But you know what- you're not going to take that! It's up to you to create your own meaning in life! Remember that when the time comes to die, you'll want to be able to look back and know that even if life wasn't all it was cracked up to be, you made the best of your situation and you lived a good life.

Find a hobby. Now I admit, when you're depressed you probably won't take much interest in anything, but just give yourself something to do and something to make you proud. As said earlier, set realistic goals for yourself, you'll feel much better after accomplishing them.

Hope you find good meaning in this, that's really all I can do to help.