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48 (19%)

I suspect I am, but am not diagnosed as such.

32 (12.6%)

NO!

164 (64.8%)

I've been diagnosed as such, but suspect I am not.

9 (3.6%)

Total Members Voted: 252

[Max White]

I feel a lot more tense when I'm late, not a great thing to recover from.
If your going for 'Howl Pendragon - Show you the town' appeal, it helps if you are always there first, and always know exactly where to go, and exactly what to order, as if you have done this a billion times before, but sharing it for the first time.

[Vector]

I feel a lot more tense when I'm late, not a great thing to recover from.
If your going for 'Howl Pendragon - Show you the town' appeal, it helps if you are always there first, and always know exactly where to go, and exactly what to order, as if you have done this a billion times before, but sharing it for the first time.

I think I'm actually physically incapable of being that slick.  I'm not trying for Pendragon-style appeal, though.  I sort of bumble through life and hope it works, because I don't like pretending I know the answers when I don't.

However, I guess I've gotten pretty patient because of that =)

[Grakelin]

I usually try to arrive fashionably late for everything, but everybody else I know does as well, so I am always the first one there.

[sonerohi]

I used to get really upset at tardiness. When someone said 9:00 for an event, my assumption was that everyone was there and prepared at 9:00, and then the event happened. I've started to think that the first half hour of an event is arrival and preparation time, and it helps a little. I still arrive right on time and get anxious about people that arrive 'late', but less so than I used to.

[Doomchild-]

i always try to be on time and am usually rather upset if i'm even just a few minutes late. when i was in college and i was late for a class i'd skip the entire class just because i didn't know how to arrive late in a class in progress, then the next time i usually didn't go because i didn't know how to explain my absence of the previous week... you can guess how that eventually ended...

it's kinda weird how when someone asks me to do something like 'go to the butcher this afternoon and get x' and i'll usually forget but when someone makes an appointment with me like 'next session will be in 3 months, on tuesday at 3pm' i'll be there at 2.55 without ever having to write anything down

[Max White]

Easiest way to explain why you were late is to just be very vague and pretend it is personal, without saying as such. Something along the lines of 'Umm, it was just something I had to sort out, it should be fine now' is very apologetic, open ended and not likely to be pressed. As long as you seem confident in your words, but reluctant to give information, they should catch on that this must have been something that you shouldn't be talking about in open company, then you are set.

[Grakelin]

If you're somewhat reliable and useful in most cases, nobody will even care if you're late. In my first year of university, I arrived an hour late to a group meeting expecting to be chewed out, and instead everybody was just relieved I had finally arrived because they were so reliant on my leadership. In contrast, in another group project, one guy wouldn't get anything done, and then we'd glower him down if he was even a few minutes late.

[G-Flex]

I think the diversity of recent responses goes to show that a subject like tardiness is so open-ended in terms of situational and personal variables that you can't really draw many simplistic, across-the-board conclusions regarding behavior except maybe "try not to be late", "don't get too upset about tardiness if it's not a big deal", and "be courteous if you are late".

[sonerohi]

Also, if you are going to be late, it doesn't hurt to bribe your way back into good standing.

[Max White]

Bribe, lie, blackmail, all good fun, and some what harmless.

[alway]

On the topic of the inability or difficulty of recognizing facial cues, this may be relevant: Pop Sci summary
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In short, it's a pair of glasses with a small camera hooked to a processor elsewhere which performs facial analysis specifically for the purpose of helping those with aspergers/autism in conversation.

The glasses also have a pretty straightforward visual cue: a green light flashing inside the frames means the person is interested, agreeing, or thoughtfully engaged. A red light spells boredom, disagreement disgust, etc.

[sonerohi]

They aren't for sale yet  . I wanted to be a super cool dude.

[G-Flex]

I can't see that being really useful for anyone except those with pretty severe autism, though, considering what limited information it would be able to give.

[Vector]

I don't see what help that would be to someone without fairly mild autism, though, because they're the ones who will know what to do with that data.

For me, I'd be going "auuugh what am I doing wrong what am I doing wrong what is the fuck is this fucking light doing in my eye run away run away."  Also, it's really depressing when they can program machines to read faces better than you can.

But maybe someone else would find that sort of thing helpful.

[Leafsnail]

To create this lexicon, they hired actors to mime the expressions, then asked volunteers to describe their meaning, taking the majority response as the accurate one.

Well, the machine seems to just be told what the majority opinion is, rather than having any kind of meaningful expression recognition.  It probably wouldn't help if the person is trying to hide their emotion, but it'd probably be useful for those who struggle to pick up cues I guess.

Incidentally, the part about Death Note eyes criminal records checking glasses sounds quite interesting.  Could cause something of a loss of anonymity though.