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[Bauglir]

Because hey, what doesn't do well that way on this forum?

So, this is a tangent being dragged out of the happy thread about, at the moment, what a good progression for relationships is. To be fair, I think mine was the most "Everybody else is wrong"ly phrased, which in retrospect is rather silly, but I'll reiterate the gist of it here, and if this conversation winds down feel free to move on to other relevant topics.

So, my general thinking is that dating somebody to find out if you love them is a bit backwards, but I might be placing too much importance on what dating actually constitutes. At any rate, I have a tendency not to become interested in someone beyond brief physical attraction unless I get to know them well first, which is probably the root of that perspective. It seems somehow dishonest, or something, to get to know somebody for the purpose of satisfying my own desire for a relationship rather than to get to know somebody because they seem interesting and then go, "Hey, you know, actually, you seem pretty attractive." Anyway, feel free to point out inherent contradictions in that if they exist, and post your own perspectives, etc.

[Vector]

Well, because that assumes physical attraction = only attraction, or most important attraction.

You can find someone's mind romantically interesting, you know.

[Earthquake Damage]

It seems somehow dishonest, or something, to get to know somebody for the purpose of satisfying my own desire for a relationship

Social creature seeks interaction with another of its kind.  In particular, it seeks a level of intimacy its present relationships lack.  From that very limited perspective, I see nothing amiss.

[Bauglir]

Well, because that assumes physical attraction = only attraction, or most important attraction.

You can find someone's mind romantically interesting, you know.

I can! But I can't without first knowing somebody well, although I suppose on thinking about it, that doesn't necessitate love first. Ah well, I suppose I was forcing an unnecessary dichotomy (start dating somebody immediately upon meeting, or wait until love happens). Good to become cognizant of these things.

[Vector]

[RedKing]

Damn, I had that same babysitter!