I think I'm missing a negation here.
So we're going to be imperialistic in forcing a democratic system on the nation, and then we're going to ignore it's mostly inevitable result(Ie, Islam party victory). Sounds like a great idea.
Imperialistic in trying to force a democratic system with an inviolable separation of Mosque and State, the latter of which is not at all what the people desire.
With that you are ultimately overriding what many people desire, without it the democracy won't last beyond being a vessel for sharia law.
I think the problem here is that we have conflicting opinions on what is "democratic" and what is not. That is to be expected, of course.
Democracy does not exist in a vacuum. It would be nice if it did, but it does not. I am ultimately not an advocate of pure democracy, I am an advocate of liberal democracy, which is not what has been emerging from the Arab Spring (though Tunisia is partially there).
I can't abide that line of thinking. You can't be all about a nation having self-determination, and then reject it when their self-determination goes in a direction you don't like.
Sure I can. I'm not some neutral arbiter that wants everybody to have their own beliefs. I want everybody to agree with me. So do you. So do all of us. Denying that does no good.
I believe constitutional liberal democracy is the best political system available to people in general and it should be spread as far as it can be spread. I say this because the consequences of lacking such things are severe and have real effects on real people. I would rather have religious people skulking about not having a political voice than passing laws to string up the heretics for the glory of [deity]. It isn't right to override people but it is more right than letting greater oppression and violence occur.
That seriously undermines the very concept of democracy and makes us incredibly hypocritical. It would hardly be the first time, but that's the sort of bullshit that makes the US disliked in so many parts of the world.
Everybody is going to blame the person in charge. If the EU or USSR was the sole superpower everybody would bite their thumb at them while still making economic and political deals where the public couldn't see them. Let them hate us. You can't make them not hate us because we are the ones with the target on our back. Not intervening gets us just as much hate for being "uncaring". Damned if you do and damned if you don't, so we might as well try to advance our interests.
They don't "hate us for our freedom", they hate us because we insist that their freedom look exactly like ours.
Their idea of freedom can't coexist with ours. It's an unfortunate reality but it
is the truth. Islamists are all about freedom in that regard. Their freedoms are just things like being able to tell Kurds and Copts to convert or die, and marrying little girls to old men. Western democracies and things like that aren't going to be able to exist in the same world without constant conflict. Somebody has to break.