No, I meant that voting habits would be an acceptable reason to blame somebody, because it's an act that more or less endorses the candidate's behavior. If somebody I never voted for and have never taken any action in support of, and have spoken against frequently among those I know, makes a decision I disagree with, I fail to see how that reflects on me. It'd be like saying that, as an American citizen, I'm culpable for the UK's Prime Minister's decisions.
I'm not in jail because my arrest would accomplish nothing, because anything I could do that would get me arrested in the first place would only serve as public relations fuel in support of the wars if it were somehow important enough to be noticed, and, yes, because I don't want to be in jail. I do admit, I could be doing more - I'm not the person in that hypothetical. I accept that, but it's because I believe I'm more valuable to society progressing along the path I'm already taking. That value is probably negligible in the long run, but whatever.
It's more like my neighbors put a big rusty trampoline in my yard, and it's too heavy for me or any of my friends to move, and besides that it's really actually pretty sharp so even trying is likely to end up with me getting cut up pretty badly. And whenever I call the cops about it, they raid my house and say the neighbors told them I was a drug dealer. Meanwhile, the neighbors are using my backyard as storage space, and charging their buddies for access.
In short, elected representatives are only very rarely my representatives. I don't lay claim to innocence, but I do think you're being pretty obnoxious about the degree of blame you're handing out, not just to me, but to others who're in worse shit than I ever have been. Let me be clear: I'm not arguing with you for my own honor or any such nonsense. I'm arguing with you because there are a lot of people you're assigning blame to who's greatest crime was having responsibilities more important than politics - among them, eating regularly.
To accept your definition of guilt would be to accept that all people are guilty for basically everything they could potentially have stopped, no matter how slim the chances of success - which is basically everything that ever happens during that person's lifetime. That degree of guilt would be so great that, in comparison to it, any differences between (say) you and Stalin would be negligible. That's not meant to imply that you are actually similar to Stalin, by the way, but rather the exact opposite. I'm sure you've noticed that, but somebody was bound to complain about Reductio ad Hitlerum by another name, so I thought I'd head that off. At any rate, if you're willing to accept that, that's fine I guess, but my worldview demands more nuance.