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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #45 on: February 18, 2011, 01:08:28 pm »
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #46 on: August 09, 2011, 04:58:49 pm »
What?
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #47 on: August 09, 2011, 04:59:39 pm »
Person A picks off the omega of the group and ingratiates himself.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #48 on: August 09, 2011, 05:02:33 pm »
What?
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #49 on: August 09, 2011, 05:03:34 pm »
No.  You find the most socially awkward-looking/alone/weird person there and ingratiate yourself.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #50 on: August 09, 2011, 05:06:30 pm »
What?
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #51 on: August 09, 2011, 05:07:53 pm »
Find the leader, ask them if you can sit down, and then try your damndest to join the conversation.  Introduce yourself to the whole group (AFTER you sit down), of course.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #52 on: August 09, 2011, 05:08:55 pm »
What?
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #53 on: August 09, 2011, 05:11:52 pm »
Quote from: Barbarossa the Seal God on August 09, 2011, 05:08:55 pm
Alrighty. How can I tell who a leader is? I'm pretty bad at that.

Look for the person people are looking at for approval, especially after telling jokes.  Don't let cross-fire from crushes/best friends in the subgroup confuse you.  They should be fairly relaxed-looking and doing nothing to make themselves look smaller.

Also, practice in classrooms.  It's usually pretty easy to tell who the teacher's favorite is without these cues, so they're a good start.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #54 on: August 10, 2011, 09:41:53 am »
Why bother? 95% of people I've talked to had nothing interesting to say.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #55 on: August 10, 2011, 10:07:50 am »
Quote from: DJ on August 10, 2011, 09:41:53 am
Why bother? 95% of people I've talked to had nothing interesting to say.

Because socialising with strangers is the only way to make acquaintances, which is the only way to make friends. You'll never find those golden 5% if you're not willing to wade through the rest.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #56 on: August 10, 2011, 11:04:42 am »
Quote from: DJ on August 10, 2011, 09:41:53 am
Why bother? 95% of people I've talked to had nothing interesting to say.
You must live in a boring place then. I mean, 95% of the people I talk to have at least one interesting thing to say.

e, And besides, talking to random people is fun. :-P
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #57 on: August 10, 2011, 12:52:54 pm »
Quote from: Barbarossa TSG on August 09, 2011, 05:08:55 pm
Alrighty. How can I tell who a leader is? I'm pretty bad at that.

Invent a problem and see who the first few responders are. You will most likely get the host, their SO, and the group leader.
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #58 on: August 11, 2011, 12:46:04 am »
Quote from: DJ on August 10, 2011, 09:41:53 am
Why bother?
Because not bothering is bothering the hell out of me.

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Quote from: Barbarossa TSG on August 09, 2011, 05:08:55 pm
Alrighty. How can I tell who a leader is? I'm pretty bad at that.
Invent a problem and see who the first few responders are. You will most likely get the host, their SO, and the group leader.
This sounds pretty reasonable, but inventing a problem? I don't think I want any introductions to be, "HELP, MY HOUSE IS ON FIRE" or somesuch. What scale of problem is the most reasonable?
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Re: Talking to People
« Reply #59 on: August 11, 2011, 12:52:52 am »
Where is the BLAH
When is BLAH
How do you get to BLAH
Do you know BLAH about class schedules/teachers
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