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[MaximumZero]

"Hey, is this seat taken?" It lets them know that you're aware of the social grouping, lets them know that you want in, and the only person to respond to you will be the alpha of the pack.

[Heron TSG]

Alrighty, on my week off from the internets I tried some of this jazz. I think I've gotten the hang of the alpha-finding thing, but the omega-finding is proving more difficult. I just have no idea who is lower on social scales. In addition, finding who is friendly among gathered people is difficult as well.

[Vector]

Look for someone who looks like you.  Or rather: nerdy, awkward, ugly, disrespected, pretty much anything.  Stereotype the hell out of things and look for whoever looks most nervous and least comfortable.

[Max White]

I find the best way to talk to new people is to just be in the state of mind that they are already good friends of yours. You already like this person, and they like you, and you get along, and the only thing missing is some background info on their interests. If you can make yourself see people like that, it becomes a lot easier to make friends with people.

[Heliman]

My favorite thing to do when talking to new people is break the ice before things get awkward and silent. No, I don't mean asking them what they major in or something really dull and repetitive, but something that throws them off guard.

Case in point, last year my best friend brings grr boyfriend to sit with us at a table. Grr looked like a nice sort, but it was obvious that grr felt a bit nervous about 1. me being so chummy with his girlfriend, and 2. suddenly being at a table of people grr didn't know. So, while the others were getting lunch and grr was sitting there with me in awkward silence, I asked something.

Me:Hey, what do you call a cannon ball hitting a glacier?
Grr: what?
Me: an Icebreaker. *offers handshake* Hi, I'm Billy Nelson.

Things went remarkably better after that.


Also, I disagree with the lot of you on the best people for talking to. I've found that best and most wordy conversations come from people who are totally different from you. You get more things to talk about that way. A shared point of view lasts all of 30 seconds when talking, a differing point of view can eat up hours of discussion. Great fun.

[TheMasterTurtle]

Picking off the Omega with a Blowgun shows them who is boss, with the added benefits of fear!

But in all seriousness I am a confident and friendly person so usually conversation finds me. But If I want to talk to a group of people or something I A) Sit down beside them and join the conversation without there consent, if they don't mind they are easy going most likely friendly people, if they don't I try and talk to them later. B) I ask if a seat is taken and then join the conversation. C) Challenge the Alpha to duel, and most likely win if they accept.

Usually I do A if they look easy going, B if they do not and C if none of the above work.

I don't have much trouble with talking though so I am probably not to helpful.

Also, were did you get your cape? And what is it's design?

[Grakelin]

Just walked into this thread.

It's a bunch of people talking about alphas and omegas.


What the fuck, guys. This is how you don't make friends.

[TheMasterTurtle]

Haha, I was mostly kidding in my post because the only time it mentions alphas and omega it talks about killing and fighting them. Although I have challenged people to fights like that before.

[Heron TSG]

Just walked into this thread.

It's a bunch of people talking about alphas and omegas.


What the fuck, guys. This is how you don't make friends.

Yup, that would be the problem. So how do you make friends?

[Grakelin]

By spending your free time interacting with groups of other people and being an amiable and friendly person around them.

[Heron TSG]

"How do I talk to people and make friends?"
"Be friendly and talk to them!"
 

It's not that I'm unfriendly, it's that I have no idea what to say, or to whom.

[eataTREE]

Most people simply adore talking about themselves. "What's your major/what do you do for a living? Do you like it? How did you come to be a/be interested in ____? Where do you come from/what's your hometown?" and so on. Let them talk, but interject occasionally to connect something they've said to your own experience. "Oh, I've been to ____, it's lovely this time of year" or "I thought about studying _____ but there was too much math" and such. Don't forget to give the floor back to the person you're trying to chat up though.

[Vector]

It's not how you make friends, but if you're a person with low social confidence (such as myself) it is how you enter a group without having a panic attack.

[TheMasterTurtle]

WERE DID YOU GET A CAPE!

[Vector]

WERE DID YOU GET A CAPE!

I think you're crossing the line from solicitous to extremely annoying.