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[freeformschooler]

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[Tellemurius]

you are crawling out of your shell you'll be fine (or slow down a bit if its too much).

[freeformschooler]

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[Vector]

Is this bad? I don't know. I don't think so. I would just like to hear the (74.2%) intelligent B12ers' opinions and experiences with the subject. I sure hope there's somebody out there who understands. I'm not normally the kind of person to just be open about this but it really is very strange.

As the resident female person who gives everyone unwanted advice (read: busybody), I'd just say "don't worry about it."  People are strange.  You aren't hurting anyone.

As for personal experience, I came out of a bad relationship about a year ago and have lost pretty much all self-propelled desire to date/procreate/whatever (not that I had any before I entered that relationship... kind of odd, I guess).  Nowadays I just kind of study and enjoy being alone.  I guess I think sometimes about "what if I had some kids," but in general it's never been important.  Same with sex--just disinterested.

Dunno.  I figure that if I found the right person, I'd go with them, but I'm not looking and I don't expect to land into anything really serious for the next 10-20 years.  That may sound ridiculous, but it seems like a reasonable estimate from my end.

[Tellemurius]

you are crawling out of your shell you'll be fine (or slow down a bit if its too much).

...I don't understand the euphemism. Is that another "coming out of the closet" thing? It sounds funny.

yea surprise you never heard of it.

[freeformschooler]

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[Tellemurius]

the meanings doesn't point out you are gay, its a saying for people that stopped jacking off in private and seeing the light or getting outside your norm.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

It doesn't sound like you have anything to be worried about. Actually, I would personally mark your emotions being under your control as a good thing. I've seen people let their instant infatuation of individuals they find attractive end very badly, while you sound like you can keep your head on straight on a effortless level. So, really, my advice is that you require no advice. Everything is fine unless you have another problem.

[freeformschooler]

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[Solifuge]

I've never gotten too wrapped up in physical attraction myself. I can recognize individuals who "look good" or have aspects of them that are beautiful, but it isn't something based on commonly-held ideals, and only sometimes applies to people generally thought of as "beautiful". It's also not something that generally attracts me to people... I generally have to know something about who they are as a person before I find myself attracted to them.

For example: I found Viggo Mortensen (the actor who played Aragorn in the Lord of the Rings trilogy) to be a sexy man. What I mean by this is that I have a great deal of respect for how he did all his own stunts as Aragorn, and even managed to parry what could have been a lethal knife-throw during a mishap while filming. He also has a well-shaped jaw, a nice voice, and a good attitude about what he does with his wealth. I don't find myself particularly attracted to Viggo, but I do very much like him as a person.

Another example: I had a creative writing course with a girl who I had something of a crush on. She was tall, round-faced, dark-skinned, and wore a lot of aesthetically beautiful patterned clothes. What attracted me to her most were not these things (they were just other aspects of who she was), but instead were her kindness, her creativity, her soft-spoken tenacity, her openheartedness, and her ability to write poetry and prose. She had a great attitude about life and lived it beautifully, and that is what attracted me to her.

I'd not worry about not getting instantly enamored of people, at all. It just means you've got a better idea of what you're looking for, or at least a more cerebral one. Just be who you are, and don't worry about it. Take the road less-traveled, for it can make all the difference.

P.S. Instead of being "Partly Asexual", you also may just have a low libido. :3

[The Scout]

Is this bad? I don't know. I don't think so. I would just like to hear the (74.2%) intelligent B12ers' opinions and experiences with the subject. I sure hope there's somebody out there who understands. I'm not normally the kind of person to just be open about this but it really is very strange.

female

Your female? Guess you can't guess genders across the internet.

[Vector]

Your female? Guess you can't guess genders across the internet.

Yes, I'm a girl.  Don't worry, you aren't the only person who's been surprised.  Some folks are even surprised multiple times.

[The Scout]

Makes me wonder if Deon is actually a woman. Anyway, this is a really good example of the fact you can't tell genders across the internet.

[Vector]

... I didn't think I was that manly.  Full of ass-kicking, perhaps, but not enough to make one question the gender of a Russian.

[The Scout]

... I didn't think I was that manly.  Full of ass-kicking, perhaps, but not enough to make one question the gender of a Russian.

I generally think of most of you being guys until proven wrong. I for some reason thought you were a guy. And what does him being Russian have to do with this?