Me and my folks have been going through a hard time. My dad started working away from home (occasionally comes back on weekends) and my mother's job has been "stressful" or so I've heard.
Anyway, it comes down to this. My mother has a tendency to have a hissy fit whenever I do something wrong. In this particular case, she told me to set some supplies (for putting a Christmas tree up) on the front porch. I took them up front and put them down in the middle.
Well, turns out we had no duct tape, so we had to go to the store. We went outside, and she saw that I had put the stuff in the middle of things. Being her overly prudent and irritable self, she went off on a tangent about how I need to have common sense when putting things down.
The hammer we were using was in the middle, and she said that it would fly up and hit someone's face should they step on it (which is completely nuts). Being my rather argumentative self, I told her that I figured it would only be there for a few minutes and it wasn't a big deal. We had a rather small argument, but apparently to her it escalated quickly.
While I was talking, she grabbed me by my shoulders and shook me yelling in my face something (don't remember exactly what) like "Pay attention to me!" or something. By reflex, I grabbed her arms and pulled them off of me.
She has rheumatoid arthritis, so her joints are rather inflammatory. My removing of her hands from my person caused an inflammation.
She became so angry that she stormed off and went to the store herself. When she came back, she yelled at me, telling me that I was "Trash" and "worse than an asshole" for laying my hands on another person. Claiming that this situation wasn't serious because she was especially vulnerable to physical exertion, she yelled that she would "call the police if you lay another hand on me" and others.
This is particularly hypocritical because she said, and I quote, "Any person who lays a hand on another is worse than an asshole," while she herself initiated the physical conflict. All I did was remove her hands from my person.
She is not the type that would ever say sorry or forgive unless I prostrate myself before her begging for it. That being said, I feel rather strongly that she is at fault. I'm not sure how to act. She won't even look at me now, but I don't feel that I am at fault.
I said sorry sincerely and submitted myself to punishment (which she hasn't administered yet) but I feel that things will be very awkward from now on and it angers me to think about the unfairness of the situation. She won't see the errors in her ways unless I confront her very seriously, which is something I take no pleasure in doing (have done it before, and feel like an asshole later).
I don't feel bad for what she wants me to feel bad for. I'm sorry that I hurt her, but the situation doesn't seem to warrant her reaction. I don't know what to do.
Am I at fault here? Shouldn't she be to blame for laying hands on me first? And how do I approach her now that its been a while? Things are still rather awkward.