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[misko27]

They're a girl.  Insofar as I can tell, it's just a visceral reaction.

I used to be scared around girls. Then I went to a school with a lopsided gender ratio. Girls everywhere. Either I had to get over it, or become a shut-in. I'm already a shut-in, and I still had to go outside for food/class, so I had to get over it anyway. Still can't do anything romantic to save my life, but being around and talking to girls is easy enough now.

[Amperzand]

In this vein, there are a pretty solid number of attractive young ladies around my college this year. I have what may count as reason to believe that there is other than a lack of interest in myself. This is concerning.

[BorkBorkGoesTheCode]

Use prophylactics.

[Amperzand]

Should that become a problem, I certainly will. The problems that arise from not doing so are not within my means to deal with.

[spümpkin]

@DigitalDemon:

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doesn't help with aaaaaa social anxiousness very much

Yes, I'm aware, i was just saying why I've always been more comfortable around girls, even though i am physically male, and wasn't strictly otherwise female until recently.

But yeah, girls are essentially just... people. now, I know that probably doesn't help much but think. You are also a people.

There. Something in common to start a conversation about. Talk about, I dunno, what you like. What kind of food you eat, what you do in your spare time, what kind of people you love and hate, thigns that you dislike, things that you're afraid of, things that you're irresistably drawn towards, talk about anything. Because if I know anything, people only think you're an asshole when you A. Contradict with their beliefs (which you may do, just by being you ((although if thats the case then they're probably an asshole))) or B. Downplay their beliefs.

Not strictly religious beliefs either. Beliefs in morals, humanity, the world, conspiracies, animals, food, whatever. People like being agreed with. So, be agreeable. And laugh a lot. Laughter is universal. Also, a good compliment is never a bad thing. Just saying, "Oh hey, I saw that you did {x} and thought that was very [insert generic compliment] of you!" or "Oh hey, not to be a bother, but you have lovely {x}"

Note, that the second compliment can go haywire if you mention anything regarding primary and secondary sexual characteristics.

[Tiruin]

[...]nt is never a bad thing. Just saying, "Oh hey, I saw that you did

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Just to note, any {x} within brackets becomes a bullet.
Also nicely what she said--girls is peoples :O We won't bite or eat you alive. It's working with concepts if there's a slightly different reaction to one over the other when the baseline is being peoples.

[Yoink]

Girls in general aren't really any more difficult to talk to than anyone else. I have trouble talking to most people whilst sober.
Of course, everyone's different. If the girl in question lacks social skills herself or is a quiet talker/mumbler or doesn't really want to talk to you or is difficult to talk to for some other reason, then yes, it'll probably be a challenge to make/continue conversation. And, obviously, if you are attracted to her that's always a pretty huge stumbling block unless you're some kind of ridiculously suave, cool, calm and collected social butterfly- but that's true of pretty much anyone you happen to have a crush and/or "squish" on. 

...Then again, I haven't really done a lot of socializing lately. Barely any, in fact.
My social skills in general have probably eroded to the point where interacting with anyone apart from family is at much the same difficulty.
I may be mis-remembering quite what social situations are like. I shall resume my data-gathering activities on the subject later this week.
Also my liver damage-gathering and New Year's Resolution-fulfilling activities, but that's another story.

Did they beat and/or threaten you, or are you just freaking out over the faux pas?

I'm just freaking out over the faux pas. Because for fuck's sake. This is a fumb mistake and I am angry at myself.

Eh, it's not that bad, honestly. The dude's mother could easily still be alive.
Did he actually seem upset when you said it? I think you're fine.

[Tiruin]

Girls in general aren't really any more difficult to talk to than anyone else. I have trouble talking to most people whilst sober.
Of course, everyone's different. If the girl in question lacks social skills herself or is a quiet talker/mumbler or doesn't really want to talk to you or is difficult to talk to for some other reason, then yes, it'll probably be a challenge to make/continue conversation. And, obviously, if you are attracted to her that's always a pretty huge stumbling block unless you're some kind of ridiculously suave, cool, calm and collected social butterfly- but that's true of pretty much anyone you happen to have a crush and/or "squish" on. 

Love all this, really insightful
And at that mention, I'm pretty much recalling all my terrified times in social interactions ._. It all dealt with current feelings rather than future insights.

...Then again, I haven't really done a lot of socializing lately. Barely any, in fact.
My social skills in general have probably eroded to the point where interacting with anyone apart from family is at much the same difficulty.
I may be mis-remembering quite what social situations are like. I shall resume my data-gathering activities on the subject later this week.

You did note it down very succinctly :O Socializing is also learned for many parts--got outlets there who you can get feedback from (like the other Australian folks here on B12?) other than your family? Communication is a thousand way tunnel that there are many ways to say things--but the interpretation goes also in what is being seen. Personally, I've found that practicing, researching, or thinking about how I can become more presentable by self-practice helps a lot in supporting social skills (eg Saying things, then remembering you saying those things as if you're the observer and receiver of those things, and then wondering how clear your idea was in comparison to your intent)

[tonnot98]

Found out that my part of Florida is gonna be hit by a huge hurricane.

I'm probably going to be inside with friends playing D&D while the streets flood <3

[NRDL]

Stay safe. 

[Frumple]

If it makes you feel any better, it looks like current forecasts have it down to just a cat 3 by the time it rolls its face along the east coast.

[tonnot98]

Oh, and the water around my friend's house apparently has some brain-eating bacteria so if it floods, the entire neighborhood is gonna be playing "the floor is lava."

[Greiger]

Yep, all us Florida bros will be right here with ya.   There's going to be a big update for a mmo i'm playing atm that day too, and the power and internet will probably be out.  #Firstworldproblems #Dbatteriesarerarerthanplatinum #Igotattackedbywaspsonthepatiofurniturewhiledraggingthemintoshelter

[Rose]

Found out that my part of Florida is gonna be hit by a huge hurricane.

I'm probably going to be inside with friends playing D&D while the streets flood <3

Just watch out for the demogorgon.

[Rolan7]

Good luck, Floridians ):
My "friend" is down there but he's offline, I hope he'll be alright...