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[TheBiggerFish]

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*applies (platonic) hugs*
I have no advice to give, what with having pretty much no social life myself, other than, you should be yourself and not freak out about doing so.

[Tiruin]

I dislike social interactions as well.
Maybe not to the same extent as you, but still.
You have at least MY sympathies.

That's the problem, though: I don't dislike social interaction, in fact I crave it. Unfortunately though I am really, really bad at it, and that causes me a great deal of stress. Such is my curse, to long for the company of others and yet feel terrified by the very thought of reaching out to befriend them.

And then once you have friends, there's the matter of keeping in touch with them, meeting up and doing friend stuff, whatever.
Whenever I suggest (or consider suggesting) some sort of friend-activity I worry that they don't really consider me a good friend at all, that I'm doing it wrong and creeping them out, that to them I'm just some clingy weirdo that has latched onto them, like a drowning man grasping for a piece of driftwood in the swirling maelstrom of life. 

I have no idea how most people just seem to click with others, and seemingly at once begin hanging out and forming a bond through shared experiences. Sometimes I toy with the idea of just coming clean, admitting that I am really bad at friend-stuff and asking them to bear with me, but that would make me seem even more pathetic than I do already.

o_o
You are me a few years ago.

* Tiruin applies tons of hugs onto you.

You can do this Yoink! D:
I'd send you a PM right now around all this because I can very much relate with those feelings but argh! Tired me does not write very well at all!

Just tons of hugs to you, dude :< Keep climbing that figurative mountainous obstacle! The view is best at the top, or at least on the ledges ahead.

Spoiler: To add a story... (click to show/hide)

I was to post this a few days ago, but breakdowns happened! (Due to a wholly different source)

Saturday was the day I had to work as a student proctor. This was wholly scheduled a month beforehand, and given personal signature and personal choice to which Saturdays 'you're available' (so no backing out!). What I didn't know (or at least didn't think much of) is that I'll be using my voice! D:
And being alone to issue/watch over tests for younger people ~5 years my age! I was proctoring over two tests surrounding our University and the students' choice as to which senior high school they'd go to.

Something totally different from my time since they have the K-12 program, and I didn't. I didn't know what Senior High School was. I didn't know what Grades 7-12 were like (I lived my school life from Grades 1-6; High School Years 1-4 -> College), and these dudes were undergoing this program.

So I pop up during the day, 1 hour before starting time, and a heck load nervous. I'm just so glad that the teacher in charge is a very understanding person who is able to add nice humor to balance out my nervousness. So knowing she's OK with me, the situation became like a soundingboard! (In which Tiruin voices out all possible doomsday situations wherein a proctor may slip up and make mistakes in front of everyone who calls them Sir or Ma'am.) I still think about minor, tiny, itty-bitty mistakes (which nobody makes an issue out of)! But I've learned to turn them into philosophical situations.

The only thing that made this better, are friends, and that instructor. People to poke my anxiety (which keeps bloody predicting the wuuurst out of things as a defense mechanism [thank you several years of bullying :V]) to tell you 'Dude, that's going to be ok' (plus words of comfort to help my logical side work with it).


I'm just thankful the same is like here, on this forum. Filled with awesome people just drifting here and there--connecting all over the world. Something I couldn't imagine back in the 1990's

[Yoink]

Thanks guys!
I think this is something I can get better at. Or maybe you've just made me overly optimistic, but right now I'm just that: optimistic.

I'm glad to hear your proctor work went well, Tiruin. Even if I didn't know what the word meant until today.
Hopefully at some point I'll manage to be more open with people about my anxiety and general awkwardness. Maybe someday.

[Tiruin]

Thanks guys!
I think this is something I can get better at. Or maybe you've just made me overly optimistic, but right now I'm just that: optimistic.

Cling onto that. It's Hope
It's what I've been clinging onto till I noticed where I have to grow ._.
Someday soon~

[Graknorke]

Oh nooooo I'm getting fat. I'm running out of youth!
Is there anything I might have missed out on doing before I stop being sort-of-invincible?

[Egan_BW]

Develop cybernetic implants to allow for immortality.

[Yoink]

Oh nooooo I'm getting fat. I'm running out of youth!
Is there anything I might have missed out on doing before I stop being sort-of-invincible?

You haven't partied with me yet, unless you did so incognito.

[hops]

Oh nooooo I'm getting fat. I'm running out of youth!
Is there anything I might have missed out on doing before I stop being sort-of-invincible?

Drink a copious amount of alcohol and try to not die.

[Egan_BW]

Oh nooooo I'm getting fat. I'm running out of youth!
Is there anything I might have missed out on doing before I stop being sort-of-invincible?

Drink a copious amount of alcohol and try to not die.

Perform the latter by abstaining from the former.

[Helgoland]

*applies (platonic) hugs*

I wonder how folks would react if someone went *applies enthusiastic dryhumping*

[GiglameshDespair]

Pretty sure it happened before, or close enough.
The Toad was not impressed.

[Orange Wizard]

I'm more concerned about why the hugs are explicitly platonic. Does TBF often apply nonplatonic hugs, to the point where we would assume that his hugs will be such unless specified otherwise?

[TheBiggerFish]

No, but considering how often these sorts of things are about romance, I figured it'd be best to make my intentions clear.  I don't harem well.</badinjoke>

[Descan]

harem is haram

[Loud Whispers]

aint no haram in a harem party cos a harem party absolutely mandatory