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[Blargityblarg]

She might not share the opinion but frankly, I'm a believer that romance is something that can be developed and doesn't always have to be "boom chemistry" beyond the clicking of personalities that also happens with good friends.

Amen.

[Il Palazzo]

Amen.

Haha! This guy's fantastic.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

She might not share the opinion but frankly, I'm a believer that romance is something that can be developed and doesn't always have to be "boom chemistry" beyond the clicking of personalities that also happens with good friends.

Hopefully so. She already knew for a few months that I like her, though, so I probably should not be too optimistic if she hasn't decided over that time.

[Vector]

Hopefully so. She already knew for a few months that I like her, though, so I probably should not be too optimistic if she hasn't decided over that time.

Nah.  Dating someone is very, very different from being friends with them, and sometimes you really don't know until you've tried dating.  Hell, you can change your opinion while dating, and that's not a bad thing either.  Just don't get yourselves stuck into some idea of idea of What-You-Identify-With, because that can really cause trouble in the beginning.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Honestly, if I do go on a date with her, I don't think we would do anything different from what we usually do when we go out together. I'm probably missing the whole point of a date, though.

[GlyphGryph]

Because now its implied that you might want to get a little bit more physical and affectionate. Most of the stuff should be the same, but the... feel of it should be different.

And why are you saying "if"?

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Because now its implied that you might want to get a little bit more physical and affectionate. Most of the stuff should be the same, but the... feel of it should be different.

And why are you saying "if"?

I told her to go think about it when she said she was unsure about if she felt anything more than friendship towards me. She might not be so open to the idea if she decides I'm just a friend after all.

[Il Palazzo]

Mhm, yeah. Just, whatever you do, don't forget to name your firstborn after Bay12.
If you think you've got it hard now, think of what you'll have to put up with when you'll be breaking it through to her that her little boy is going to be named Armok.
Or Urist if it's a girl.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

I'd rather only bestow such a title upon my kids once they've made their first artifact.

[Sergius]

This is an enormous cardboad picture frame. All craftsdwarfship is of the highest quality. It is studded with popcorn and decorated with rice. This object menaces with spikes of macaroni.

On the item is an image of an adult male dwarf, an adult female dwarf, a dwarven child and a war dog. The adult male dwarf is holding hands with the adult female dwarf. The adult female dwarf is holding hands with the male adult dwarf and the dwarven child. The dwarven child is holding hands with the adult female dwarf. The war dog is sniffing its privates. The artwork relates to the visiting of the dwarven amusement park in the early spring of 2012.

[TheDarkJay]

Congrats, hope things go well ^^

A major problem is...well, how far into childhood friend range are you? Because there's an age-range where associations are formed that make being anything more rather...awkward. It's like how I have a childhood friend but since when I say childhood I mean we knew each other since we were babies (mothers are close friends so used to bring one round to the others a lot) and neither of us have ever been attracted to the other (as far as I know) because...eww.

I've seen "you two are such good friends, ever considered being more?" situations go well...then go bad. Then go kinda okay where they're still close friends but there's still some residue awkwardness...which is good I guess? And I know of a similar situation that went well, then really well, then they got engaged, then they got married, then they had kids. Anyway, long story short that was how my mother was born

Of course there's not a hard-and-fast rule, people can go in all sorts of directions in life after all xD

[Nadaka]

Honestly, if I do go on a date with her, I don't think we would do anything different from what we usually do when we go out together. I'm probably missing the whole point of a date, though.

Depending on your age range and personal mores, it generally involves the addition of holding hands, kissing and occasionally other activities.

[Sowelu]

Honestly, if I do go on a date with her, I don't think we would do anything different from what we usually do when we go out together. I'm probably missing the whole point of a date, though.

Depending on your age range and personal mores, it generally involves the addition of holding hands, kissing and occasionally other activities.

Nah, not really, not at first.  Do nice things together.  The sorts of things you kinda wanted to do with someone but never had the right person or opportunities.  Nice restaurants, places you wouldn't ordinarily go.  Really take the chance to look nice for each other, even just a little more than usual, and be appreciated for it.  (And that's important!  Appreciate her appearance!  People who date like to make themselves look good for their partner, and if you don't seem to even notice it's a pretty big insult!  Early on, this is one of the BIG ways that you can show interest in each other.  Be /actively conscious/ to recognize your partner here, it's not hard.  Honest compliments are good things.)  Share interests a bit and find things like "Well, I kinda wanted to go to amusement park X or museum exhibit Y or festival Z, but couldn't quite be bothered to go on my own or with a big group of friends, or it seemed a little expensive", and then go together.  Find ways to make it special.  That, and turn your cell phone off; make a big point of not doing stuff on the date that isn't related to 'the two of you doing something special together'.

The holding hands and kissing part comes at the end of the date.  The first few dates are not the time to constantly insert that stuff.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

I've made sure to compliment her on the long skirts she always wears, though other than that it never seemed like she really dressed up for me, except whenever we go to fancy stage musicals. I've always tried to look good for her, though I don't think leather shoes would go well with what I wear.

I wanted to ask her to go out on Saturday, but I have an errand to run for that whole afternoon that my mother dropped on me without any notice, and I hate going out on Sundays. I was actually thinking of asking her to go downtown to take a look around this large bookshop since both of us are bibliophiles and we often end up spending up to a half an hour just looking around in small bookshops anyway. I don't know how good an idea that is for a date, though.

And speaking of actually dating, should I outright tell her that it's one other than just asking her to go out? She hasn't contacted me since I asked her to think more about how she feels towards me, so she might not be ready for it yet.

[GlyphGryph]

Just ask her to go the goddamn bookstore, stop freaking out about it so much.

I don't even know why you "asked her to think about it" as she's perfectly capable of doing that without you telling her to.

Man up, ask her to go the bookstore on Sunday.