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[DJ]

Yeah, this is nothing like picking up a chick at the bar. She's your friend and knows what you're like, you don't have to put up a show to make a good first impression since it's not first impression. So a canned speech and attempts at playing it smooth can only backfire, sincerity is much better here, even if it does cause you to flush and stutter.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

I'd have to say that that paragraph is what I genuinely feel, though. Should I give up on it completely?

[Keita]

Well, it's more 'forget nailing it perfect' then 'just forget about it'. If it's what you really think, say it but don't worry if you don't get out word for word.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

Don't "try" to say anything. Just wing it, it'll turn out for the better. If you try, you'll sound fake.

[DJ]

Exactly. Prepared speech will sound insincere, you have to play it by ear even if it feels awkward.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Well, I never intended to follow that paragraph exactly anyway, just as a rough guide on what I want to say.

[Grakelin]

Don't write a speech.

That's my suggestion to you.

People forget speeches, and stumble through them blindly, trying to improvise the gist of the beautiful words they put on paper, sounding wooden and unpleasant all the while. If you want to plan something in advance of asking this girl out, do it in your head, and do not commit a singe letter to a page. The page is embellished with editing. The tongue speaks from the heart.

Unless everybody at the train station is a personal friend, don't even take her aside. Just do it where you have to do it. If you're planning to do it at the train station at all. Trying to pull a girl aside creates a psychological blockage: you're already planning to ask her to accept your being into her heart, but you're making preliminary requests of her beforehand. You'll connect the two in your mind and have trouble even getting her to walk to the side with you.

Source: I was a teenager once, too.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

I second Grakelin's advice. Especially about not trying to write anything out. I would venture to say that you shouldn't even bother with a mental speech. Just wing it. Not having a plan worked for Indiana Jones, why shouldn't it work for you?

[Grakelin]

He'll develop a mental speech over the course of the day leading up to his big moment anyway, though.

[NewsMuffin]

Are you sure she's interested in you?
If she is, you have nothing to worry about, and you can take as long as you want.
If you aren't sure, you'd better hurry up, because you're wasting time.

[Heron TSG]

He'll develop a mental speech over the course of the day leading up to his big moment anyway, though.

Exactly what I did. And then I forgot it all, going with what I said before.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Are you sure she's interested in you?
If she is, you have nothing to worry about, and you can take as long as you want.
If you aren't sure, you'd better hurry up, because you're wasting time.

If I was sure, I'd already have done it. All I have now is a slight suspicion, and even then I'm not sure if I've been deliberately interpreting whatever I could as a positive signal.

What else would be a good time to tell her, then? On the train if we're both sitting in a seat separated from the others, maybe?

[Keita]

Train is a big no-no I'm afraid, even if there's no one in the same car, it's still not really the place to ask a girl out. But that's just my thoughts.

Other places, parks, strolls down an empty street or something like that.

((<-----is a hopless romantic))

[Captain Mayday]

Doing it on a train would make her feel trapped. Don't do that. Avoid that at all costs.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

So.. not on public transport, then.

Other then offering to walk her back, anything else?