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[Kaiser Reinhard]

Because I've had a relationship like that with her for a long time already, before I grew to like her. It might work with someone I don't really know, but not for a close friend, I would think. That's pretty much what's making it complicated for me.

[Nadaka]

I have to go with Il Palazzo on this. No amount of preparation is going to make it less awkward. Keep it short and simple. Just let her know that you are interested and see where it goes from there.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

I suppose so. Even then, I'd rather have some sort of buildup than blurt it out suddenly.

[Keita]

Hm, considered myself swayed Il Palazzo.

He makes a point, in the moment you wont really remember that.

Hm, I see several ways to go about this but I'd say this if your feeling daring.

Ask if you can walk her home, if she asks why say your being a gentleman/just being nice. Then confess to her when you are in a more quite part of town from a busy train station. Now this give a few other problems like how to bring it up.

Otherwise, As the train station probably has a lot of people there ask if she could come to the side a moment as you need to ask her something, then go with that paragraph you wrote earlier.

The path to her house from the train station usually doesn't have a lot of people on it, would it do?

Also, I don't really want to ask for her attention specifically for me to confess, I'd rather do it as we were doing something else, like watching some scenery.

Yeah sounds good.

Fair enough, actualy that might be better =)

[Kaiser Reinhard]

So, yeah, go with paragraph if possible but just spit it out if I can't stay completely calm?

[Keita]

I'd say forget saying it word for word, as stated before in the heat of the moment, you'll most likely forget.

Tell her how you feel, build up a little and ask her out. I'm no King of Smooth but that looks good to me.

[DJ]

Don't prepare a speech, it never works out.

[white_darkness]

You don't need a set speech just sincerity.

If that sincerity takes the form of falling to your knees and pouring it all out as tears stream down your face, or if it takes the form of grabbing her, pulling her down, and claiming her lips with yours, or anything in between, what will be, will be.

Though based upon your commentary, not wanting to pressure her towards what you want when you know she can be pressured is definitely a good thing, though it probably limits you to the more gentle side of the fence (not always a bad thing).

You know what you want to say, so just do it.  Don't worry about whether you get it exactly the way you planned out, or whether you look "cool" or "romantic" or even the scenery too much, just make it happen.  Romance is created by the people and their intentions far more than anything else.  You can do more with a single rose in the right fashion than an expensive dinner.

Worst case scenario.  She says no.  Then you just move on, and don't let it affect you.

And the best of luck to you.

[Vector]

Yeah, I'm going to suggest a definite no on the "romantic" sexual harassment.  Just say what comes to mind and run with it.

[Keita]

Second'd and second'd

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Alright. Think I'll use the speech as a rough guide to how I'll build up to it, then.

Just asked her out for this Sunday, though unfortunately she doesn't want to go out too much or her mother will bother her about it. Seems I'll have to wait more unless I do it online, but I feel I should do it in person anyway.


Also, for myself, sincerity would consist of telling her why I think of her as so much better than every other girl I've met and rejected, no matter what others or she may feel about herself.

[Vector]

Don't do it online, yeah.  For me, at the very least, that's an automatic deal-breaker.  It may not be for her, but I believe it leaves a bad taste in most people's mouths.

[Kaiser Reinhard]

Don't do it online, yeah.  For me, at the very least, that's an automatic deal-breaker.  It may not be for her, but I believe it leaves a bad taste in most people's mouths.

It's how she usually communicates with her friends and me, but yeah, I'd rather do it straight to her face.

[Keita]

Yeah face to face is a lot better.

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Also, for myself, sincerity would consist of telling her why I think of her as so much better than every other girl I've met and rejected, no matter what others or she may feel about herself.

Might want to leave the word rejected out, kinda makes you sound as if you over build your self. Just saying.

[NewsMuffin]

Don't be afraid when asking her.
If she's really interested in you, it won't matter much if you screw up a few words, as long as you're sincere, and a little emotional about it.

I have no experience about asking people out, though.
I've been with my first girl for what... three years?
And the best part is that she asked me out, and it was really awkward.