I've been dealing with this for about 7 years now. Bouts of alcoholism of varying intensities, living in squalor and an almost total lack of self-care, injuries, car accidents, rushes to the hospital, fighting with hospital staff to get treatment, fixing her finances after she just completely fell down on managing her life, cleaning her house multiple times, trying to get her into a retirement home......this is just the latest in a string of signs that things are progressing to an even worse place.
I've already been through the ringer and had my life derailed multiple times by her. I'm glad no one actually invaded her home. But I'm just getting re-traumatized all over again, and will probably continue to until she gets into assisted living.....and hopefully can stay there instead of sabotaging that too. I love my mom but she has been a millstone around my neck for years, because she can be a deeply unlikable person at times that is hard to want to be around and who actively pushes people away even as she's making cries for help left and right. But she's also ornery and stubborn on top of it, because no one is going to tell her what to do even as the evidence sits right there in front of her that she's slowly destroying herself and her remaining relationships. As the only person that can provide real support to her, I'm at my wits end. I can't go to her because the state of her home and her appearance is deeply traumatizing to me, and she won't leave her house.
My brother and his wife are coming into town tomorrow, which we suspect is what triggered this. Because it's a commitment she knows she can't really avoid, unlike spending time with me. She always seems to go off the deep end when they come to town, it's happened multiple times in a row. We're all supposed to do something Saturday and my brother and I are both like "We can't make plans until Saturday because she may literally pivot from manic enthusiasm one day to being so drunk and ill she can't bring herself to see anyone the next."