Why is it that whenever I read either of the sad threads I can't think of anything better to say than "well that sucks, I've never felt that way myself, glad I'm not you"? I want to try being supportive, but I legitimately just can't because I can't identify with the problem. What I want to suggest is "don't feel sad", but I know that that would be one of the worst possible things to say, so I settle for saying nothing.
And then I never post my own sads in the sad thread because basically nothing ever makes me feel sad enough to want to post about it. Is my life really so great that I both can't share my sadness, and can't even relate with sadness? I'm unemployed, have no money, no higher education, and I've been diagnosed with depression and asperger's syndrome, yet nothing nowadays really gets me down. I kind of suspect that the depression was just because death is preferable to the public school system, and now that's over with I'm... fine? Even this whole problem I'm describing now is more confusing and frustrating than depressing. Is toxic masculinity or whatever magically transmuting all of my sadness into anger? Even if that's the case, I'm not sure if it's a bad thing. The other option is that I'm just naturally a happy person, in which case, uh, hooray for me? Sorry for stealing all the happiness from the people who tend towards sadness, I guess.
Somewhat relatedly, when people post with relationship difficulties, or difficulties forming relationships, I always feel like recommending that they just don't. Like, hey have you tried just being ace it's way easier. This also seems like a non-solution for most people which just so happens to work for me. It feels extremely strange that there are people who just can't be fulfilled without having a romantic partner, but I guess that's just how it is? If that's really how it works, I feel extremely lucky to be who I am.