So a while back I caught feelings for someone I shouldn't have caught feelings for, and a whole bunch of complications ensued. Once the dust had more or less settled, I set a date for talking things over and clearing the air a bit, in the hopes that we could at some point go back to being friends. That date was tomorrow.
The date approaches, and I hear that she's had to cancel out of another agreement with some mutual friends because the manager at the bar she works at was just recently caught stealing and there was now a work and organization vacuum.
I send a message saying "Hey, I heard that things are pretty crazy right now (the bar is one thing, but she's simultaneously preparing to defend her thesis and also get things ready for her parents and young nephew to come visit her for her graduation, things which I knew about and had touched upon with her), are you still going to have time tomorrow or should we try to reschedule?"
I get a reply of "Hey! Yeah, things are crazy, haha... I'd still love to have that chat with you though if you've got the time"
Me: "Sure, I'm free all day tomorrow, just let me know approximately what time you're going to come around so I can get my things in order"
*no reply for 6 hours*
Her, at 5 PM: "Hey yeah, I'm afraid we gotta reschedule... Seems like I'm working every day now and I still have to prepare for defending my thesis and also getting things ready for my parents to come out and visit"
Now, I'd like to think that I'm within rights to be a bit peeved by this, because I certainly was a bit peeved. I was so peeved that I was deeply tempted to snark. But I fought the impulse, because snarking would not be the right and constructive thing to do.
Instead I fought the impulse. ...for about an hour, give or take.
Me: "That's more or less what I'd expected, which is why I asked.
Let me know when you get things figured out."
I was a bit conflicted by my snarkiness, but my conflict was unfounded because she apparently was completely oblivious to the snark. "Thank you for understanding!! <3"