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[ChairmanPoo]

Tbh Tinder is kind of disgusting.

I'm skeptical about online datingmin general but Tinder seems particularily bad

[JoshuaFH]

Tbh Tinder is kind of disgusting.

I'm skeptical about online datingmin general but Tinder seems particularily bad

I've been trying to use it for a while, and I have to agree. If someone wanted to make a program to convince me that people are awful and disgusting, not at all worth the effort of even swiping left or right, well they did it.

[Kagus]

Honestly, I don't consider it much worse than stuff like standard Match or PoF or whatever. Tinder at least approaches honesty in what its users are looking for and/or are likely to find.

Is it full of horrible women who are only there to get lots of responses in order to boost their self-esteem, and have no intentions of following through or treating their suitors as actual people? Yes, absolutely. Same as everywhere else.

Is it full of brickheaded assholes who spam zero-effort sexual advances in every semi-female account's inbox, without ever reading the profile and with no intentions of learning more about the person beyond what their genitals feel like? Yes, absolutely. Same as everywhere else.

But at least it doesn't pretend to be a place for meaningful long-term connections right off the bat. It's a place for visually-based quick hookups, which is all the other sites end up being on a good day anyways.


Is it bad? Yes. Is it worse than the rest? I don't think so.

As an aside, my current relationship? Yeah, from a "proper" dating site. And that was only after a few years of getting completely shit on.

And Tinder does occasionally result in longer-term relations as well, as my GF's currently engaged best friend can attest to.

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[Reelya]

It seems unhealthy no matter if you get too little or too many matches... I don't see myself ever trying. How awkward it must be to conciliate superficial attraction with a lack of chemistry, *shudder*.

There are paid services who exist just to do the legwork for you on online dating. Basically, you pay someone else to deal with all the rejections, and they only send you the ones they successfully started flirting with.

Eventually there will be people on dates where both accounts were actually run by paid screeners or bots who flirted with each other.

[Kagus]

It seems unhealthy no matter if you get too little or too many matches... I don't see myself ever trying. How awkward it must be to conciliate superficial attraction with a lack of chemistry, *shudder*.

There are paid services who exist just to do the legwork for you on online dating. Basically, you pay someone else to deal with all the rejections, and they only send you the ones they successfully started flirting with.

Eventually there will be people on dates where both accounts were actually run by paid screeners or bots who flirted with each other.

There's a relevant webcomic strip that comes to mind, but I can't post it. Because, y'know, Oglaf.

[Yoink]

Bahahaha, if I wasn't terrible at that sort of thing to begin with I would totally do that for a living. A mercenary of love. A soldier of fortune of the bedroom.    


Re: Tinder; I've not used it myself, but one of my best buds is currently in a long-term, seemingly healthy relationship with his very first Tinder date. Not only that, she has actually turned out to be a pretty cool person and one that I now consider a friend, even if she doesn't like Always Sunny (worse still, when pressed she admitted that was because it is "too offensive". Like, what?!).
Crazy. Lucky bastard.

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[Kagus]

There was a special club on the dating site I used to use (beyond just the double-plus premium "Super" users with their hopelessness discount, where subscription costs would keep reducing the longer you were a super-user) with some sappy name or another, which was basically the company's extremely hamfisted attempt to combat the absolutely rampant ghosting going on.

The concept was, if you replied within a week to every message sent to your account, you'd qualify for the club. As a member of the club, you'd be able to see the list of other club members, so you could talk to someone who would be more or less guaranteed to actually answer you instead of just completely ignoring you.

So, even ignoring the generally pitiful nature of this thing, there was a glaring issue... Namely, the algorithm counted every message sent to you, not just conversation starters. This means that every conversation between club members would either last indefinitely (as each would reply, thus requiring a reply from the other), or would inevitably result in the termination of one of the parties from the club when they finally stopped responding to the long-dead exchange.


And of course everyone in that club was about as pathetic as you'd expect.

[scriver]

Me, I've given up on dating apps. These days I just go around with actual tinder and try to spark a flame that way. At least my response rate from girls have increased!

[Eric Blank]

Apparently my brother found his now-fiance on tinder. I have been unmatched by every woman ive matched with, which is one in what seems like 500 swipes. Its an excercise in futility if you dont pay for gold membership and actually get direct access to the people that like you.

[Hanslanda]

I just had a sturdy chair break under me.

[MrRoboto75]

Step one to online dating: be attractive.

[hector13]

That’s generally step one in dating in general, just IRL people aren’t limited to only knowing what you look like.

[Tack]

Step two: don’t be unattractive.

Tinder exists to show everyone how high our respective bars are.