I admit that it is an awkward sentence, but I mean exactly this set of relations
I am an aid.
I am male.
Events like this, make people think that aids, that happen to be male, are dangerous.
I am not dangerous, and find this set of events horrific.
I greatly dislike the kind of implication that is created by this event's existence.
As horrifically any normal person might feel about this event, (because, quite frankly, it is monstrous) I feel even MORE horrified by it, because of this obscene and outright wrong implication it casts, which affects me personally.
Again, though--- I am an insider to the often overlooked world of LTC settings. Family members can be either pure sympathy for their elders/relatives and their need for care that they cannot provide--- OR, They can be horrific and unfeeling monsters that care only about themselves, and anything in between.
I have personally observed some circumstances enabled or orchestrated by family members that I feel warrant the existence of hell (And I mean literal, biblical hell) for the kinds of things they put their family members through. HIPAA requires that I cannot discuss them here, however. I have already satisfied my requirements as a mandatory reporter, and that is all the further I can go, unless official investigations are opened, and I am interviewed by a police officer. Trust me, I would LOVE to name and shame, but it is simply not legal for me to do so.
When I say, without hesitation, that "It might not have been staff", I mean that seriously, and with all gravity.
Here's a hypothetical for you to chew on--
Say the woman in question was married, and the two were madly, deeply "I am fucking addicted to you!" levels of in love with each other.
The husband is financially, skillset, and time-management wise incapable of seeing to her now exponentially greater need for care. Reluctantly, he puts her into an LTC setting.
The husband visits her ever day, and asks for private time with his comatose wife. Who in their right mind would deny that? Right? ....
Given that the husband was "I am addicted to you!" levels of head over heels for her, her status as a comatose persistent vegetative patient is impossible for him to process. She is not dead, and he still loves, and more importantly--- CRAVES her -- and he develops a deep seated neurotic condition, that culminates in irrational thoughts about continuing a relationship with a person that is effectively incapable of consenting to anything, at any time.
He secretly sleeps with his comatose wife, in the "Private" time he spends with her, to satisfy that internal fantasy, which is easier for him to process than her vegetative state.
The supposition that family is above reproach in these kinds of matters is absurd. Statistically, sexual assault is fantastically more likely to perpetrated by a closely associated person, than it is by a total stranger. Family would thus, be fantastically likely to engage in such an act. This notion is just so repugnant, that feeling human beings want to distance themselves from it.
As a care giver, my responsibility is to the patient under my care. Sometimes that does mean protecting them from their own family members.
That is not to say that I don't think perverts work the system to find perfect victims that can neither fight back nor report wrongdoing, by becoming care givers. It DOES happen.
I am merely pointing out that this is not necessarily the only, or even the first line of thinking that should be explored. Personally, I feel that the infant should be DNA screened against the male care giver pool, *AND* against family, to identify the bastard responsible, and then the full weight of the law should be leveraged.
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