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In some respects, the "I am everything a woman (supposedly) wants!" line of thinking is correct, but in other ways not.
Like most people, most women (since women are people) dont really know what they want, and suffer internal conflicts. What they cerebrally consider ideal is boring. (the dependable man who is not very demanding, is gentle and kind, who blah blah blah---you get the idea.) Physical attraction is more... chemical, or instinctual. It does not care about reliability of finances, or things of that nature. Humans suffer both kinds impulse, and so suffer systemically from such conflicts, but normally are not aware of them, and so deny them when they are brought up.
This leads to situations where women will rave one day about the "Great sex" in their relationship, (ahem-- leaning heavily toward the physically active "rough" kind here. Ahem) then complain about how their partner can be physically abusive the next. Both are consequences of seeking a partner with high testosterone levels, which can lead to increased violent behaviors. (see also, roid rage.) The desire to seek a partner with high testosterone levels is tied to innate desire for high reproductive fitness, which is not something people tend to think about, but instead just innately do.
It is also what leads to the "I want a nice, gentle man!" rhetoric, which is the cerebral counterswing to the above. However, this man, who's behavior is usually indiciative of lower testosterone levels, often has lower sex drive, and is not as "passionate", and thus not as satisfying-- and so you have the unsatisfiable set of conflicting demands of "I want a man who is super gentle like a puppy, but will also fuck me like a tiger, and will beat the shit out of bad guys, without scaring the neighbors."
That's just one of the "impossible" scenarios of "The perfect man". The perfect man does not exist, and cannot exist. The best you can get is a compromise somewhere on the axis of measurement. Likewise with "Perfect Woman." Exactly where that compromise is made is specific to each individual, and the degree to which side of their nature has the most influence over the other.
Given the lack of introspection over this reality, and instead the "sour grapes" type mindset that has been fomented, I am lax to consider these individuals to be either inspired or intellectual about their position. Instead, I am rather amused at the idea that they felt they would have greater reproductive success by emulating the less reproductively fit among the masculine set.
Then, I also have a pang of deep concern; I am asexual, and male. I have never really wanted physical companionship. The idea is moot to me. However, the possibility that I will be conflated with people harboring deep resentments like this, and thus be considered a closeted misogynist or dangerous element cannot be ignored. I wish to distance myself from these people because of this. The problem; How do you denounce that, without falling victim to
"The lady doth protest too much, methinks." type reactions in others?
Why do people have to be so damn complicated?