Communicating by text is remarkably shitty, I'm discovering, particularly if you and your other conversant have different writing styles or mental processes. You can convey so little in a textual conversation that you can in real time, and emotions are lost or misappropriated and there's no face to read and no voice to empathize on and then people get hurt based on a brief summary of ideas you put together to convey when a new, entirely unintended meaning erupts from it in the other's eyes.
...
Bad feelings aren't necessarily bad, Yoink. Sometimes they're misplaced, sure, but they're not wrong to have. Give yourself a little break and see what you come back to, hey? You're doing good things out there.
Hey, thanks. I almost forgot to reply to this.
That's nice of you to say!
Indeed, as much as I enjoy writing long, rambly posts in my usual style, when one is aiming to have more of a normal conversation rather than stacking paragraph upon paragraph, text-based communication is woefully inadequate.
And, of course, unlike a face-to-face chat you are free to endlessly second-guess yourself, tinkering with your message to try and better convey your meaning for hours before finally sending it.
This is a huge pain - I agonise over every bit of punctuation, worrying if I'm 'sounding' too formal (so many people choose to forgo punctuation almost entirely, do I seem weird for doing otherwise?!), if I'm being too blasé, if I'm adequately conveying whatever I mean to say or if any jokes I'm trying to make are obvious enough to shine through the text.
In person, any misunderstandings are generally easy to detect and can be quickly cleared up, so there's less reason to fear opening your mouth.
I used to really,
really dislike phonecalls, too - being both rather deaf and very socially anxious - but over the years I've gotten a lot better at that.
They can be pretty convenient, something I will no longer stubbornly deny.
I guess I've greatly improved at face-to-face communication too, come to think of it. It probably wasn't so long ago that I would have struggled far more at actually talking to someone than shooting them a message - but then, I'm pretty sure I always sucked at that, too.
[/battery-wasting on-the-train ramble]