This will surely get some people angry with me but, this is something that has bothered me for awhile now about games with romance plotlines, and how they handle gay romances. (brought on by recent divinity 2 discuss)
To be up front, I feel it breaks the narrative to just "NOW SUDDENLY GAY!!" the characters. Take for instance, the Mass Effect romances. Kaidan Alenko appears totally straight the entire game-- until suddenly, without warning "YEAH, SUDDENLY GAY!" if you are the slightest bit supportive. I understand that many gay people conceal their sexuality (and that this is unhealthy-- and that "coming out" is somehow a romantic thing) but remember that this story takes place in a distant future where presumably, progressivism has been marching steadily onwards, and where the vestigial stigmas of being openly gay no longer exist, so why include them in the game like that? I find it jarring, and silly.
I didn't actually encounter this, since I only played 1... Where Kaidan is completely heterosexual. Apparently they did almost all the voice work, but cut it late in development. Whereas the lesbian options, of course, were a major selling point.
I totally agree that modern games go a bit far with wish fulfillment and player power... But is this really a case of it being a problem? It's merely very improbable, and only if you consider alternate playthroughs. Is Ashley a lesbian if femshep doesn't hit on her?
I happened to play as femshep, mostly because I preferred the VA's performance. I found Kaidan more attractive than Ashley and enjoyed the romance. Was Ashley even lesbian in my playthrough? The thing is, you say Kaidan never acts gay... I don't remember any of the party acting straight, either. They're just not flirty, except with the player character. I just don't see a problem with that.
In fact it bothers me that they dropped the gay in 1, and sorta advertised the game with lesbians (I kinda hate how conveniently marketable the Asari are). The idea of having to be feminine for a guy bothers me a *lot* nowadays. I don't want that in my space adventure.
So... I'm glad they corrected that in the sequels. IDK, it probably feels more natural for me since it matches my own outlook. "Oh, these people aren't repulsed by a gender, or even alien features? Kinda refreshing."
It's a lot of effort to script and voice these options, so I appreciate it... Not enough to install Origin, but hey
I'm also glad Skyrim isn't hetero-only, though I'm not sure that involved literally any effort XD All the dialogue is so generic.