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[Transcendant]

I am a stupid smart person?
I get told I am smart and in some ways I am.... In others, less so....

I don't quite get what a lot of people see as obvious ques.
Mostly these can be social or environmental.

I talk too fast. Oddly, I might not say much, but I'll say it quickly. Or, I have a ton of stuff I am basically made to say and have to say it in a short amount of time. I'm wound too tight.... Anxiety is a thing I feel. 

People interpret different words and phrases differently. It's confusing, to me anyhow. They also interpret different body languages as well, and that is also confusing for me.

[redwallzyl]

I am a stupid smart person?
I get told I am smart and in some ways I am.... In others, less so....

I don't quite get what a lot of people see as obvious ques.
Mostly these can be social or environmental.

I talk too fast. Oddly, I might not say much, but I'll say it quickly. Or, I have a ton of stuff I am basically made to say and have to say it in a short amount of time. I'm wound too tight.... Anxiety is a thing I feel. 

People interpret different words and phrases differently. It's confusing, to me anyhow. They also interpret different body languages as well, and that is also confusing for me.

well you can be bad at some things and good at others.

[Akura]

Once again, my parents are giving me crap about my hair. My mother's suggestion that she cut it right now since it's wet from the shower almost sounded like a threat. They seem to have a problem with my glorious shoulder-length hair. Or perhaps they think that since I'm bald on top(excepting a few hairs that refuse to give up) that I shouldn't have any hair on my head whatsoever. Pretty sure I overheard them say something like that. Perhaps still my stepdad simply wants my hair to look like his; he has the "skinhead neo-Nazi" hairstyle. For his case it works though, he is a skinhead neo-Nazi.

[redwallzyl]

Once again, my parents are giving me crap about my hair. My mother's suggestion that she cut it right now since it's wet from the shower almost sounded like a threat. They seem to have a problem with my glorious shoulder-length hair. Or perhaps they think that since I'm bald on top(excepting a few hairs that refuse to give up) that I shouldn't have any hair on my head whatsoever. Pretty sure I overheard them say something like that. Perhaps still my stepdad simply wants my hair to look like his; he has the "skinhead neo-Nazi" hairstyle. For his case it works though, he is a skinhead neo-Nazi.

get a tonsure and become a monk.

[Transcendant]

I am a stupid smart person?
I get told I am smart and in some ways I am.... In others, less so....

I don't quite get what a lot of people see as obvious ques.
Mostly these can be social or environmental.

I talk too fast. Oddly, I might not say much, but I'll say it quickly. Or, I have a ton of stuff I am basically made to say and have to say it in a short amount of time. I'm wound too tight.... Anxiety is a thing I feel. 

People interpret different words and phrases differently. It's confusing, to me anyhow. They also interpret different body languages as well, and that is also confusing for me.

well you can be bad at some things and good at others.

Yeah. Good point. Although, human beings are odd creatures (to me anyhow, I guess). It really matters to people how you do things and how you communicate. Does not compute? At least not to me, or not always? I guess there are consequences to this also.

[redwallzyl]

I am a stupid smart person?
I get told I am smart and in some ways I am.... In others, less so....

I don't quite get what a lot of people see as obvious ques.
Mostly these can be social or environmental.

I talk too fast. Oddly, I might not say much, but I'll say it quickly. Or, I have a ton of stuff I am basically made to say and have to say it in a short amount of time. I'm wound too tight.... Anxiety is a thing I feel. 

People interpret different words and phrases differently. It's confusing, to me anyhow. They also interpret different body languages as well, and that is also confusing for me.

well you can be bad at some things and good at others.

Yeah. Good point. Although, human beings are odd creatures (to me anyhow, I guess). It really matters to people how you do things and how you communicate. Does not compute? At least not to me, or not always? I guess there are consequences to this also.

do you not pick up on social cues? or is it you don't know the proper accepted response to situations?

[Karnewarrior]

Not really a WTF moment, because I know exactly why I'm doing it, but I'm sitting in my underpants, listening to Ave Maria, re-installing Fallout 4 nudie mods, and I was struck by non-plussedness, as I realized what I was doing.

College is weird. I'm quite sure this is not the experimentation I was forewarned of.

[Helgoland]

Hey, that sounds roughly like what I did in freshman year.

Now I'm close to finishing my studies, and instead of spending 4am drunk in a pub, I'm spending it at the institute working on my thesis. O tempora, o mores...

[Transcendant]

I am a stupid smart person?
I get told I am smart and in some ways I am.... In others, less so....

I don't quite get what a lot of people see as obvious ques.
Mostly these can be social or environmental.

I talk too fast. Oddly, I might not say much, but I'll say it quickly. Or, I have a ton of stuff I am basically made to say and have to say it in a short amount of time. I'm wound too tight.... Anxiety is a thing I feel. 

People interpret different words and phrases differently. It's confusing, to me anyhow. They also interpret different body languages as well, and that is also confusing for me.

well you can be bad at some things and good at others.

Yeah. Good point. Although, human beings are odd creatures (to me anyhow, I guess). It really matters to people how you do things and how you communicate. Does not compute? At least not to me, or not always? I guess there are consequences to this also.

do you not pick up on social cues? or is it you don't know the proper accepted response to situations?

Unsure: perhaps the former, not picking up? Either that or not grasping significance.

[redwallzyl]

Not sure what to do about that exactly. I'm sure their are several other people here that have said similar things before. perhaps one of them can give there advice for helping overcome it in some way. have you tried maybe talking to a psychiatrist about it? you might have some kind of brain malfunction messing with your ability to read other people properly. it could just be lack of sufficient social interaction to develop the ability of coarse.

I had some socialization problems as a kid but I was sent to therapy with some other kids to help me interact with people better. It seems to have worked, I'm still very introverted but I can interact with people fine. I helps if you make some friends. also getting away from the old group of stupid highschoolers in into a setting with more like minded and nerdy people made it a lot easier to get to know people and not be constantly on the defensive and getting really mad and annoyed with everyone who I felt was antagonizing me.

[TheDarkStar]

My advice is trying to get in as many situations as you can where you can interact with people. I was in a similar situation at one point - I had trouble interacting with people (and I was completely clueless when it came to talking to people one-on-one) so I made sure to try to interact with groups of people instead. Admittedly it helped that I had just started college and so suddenly I was living very close to tons of people kinda like me, but the most important thing was making sure that I was around groups of people doing stuff where I could interact as much as I was comfortable but if I didn't people would ignore me instead of being irritated. Then I found friends that I had a lot in common with (but I still had trouble talking to people or holding up a conversation) and eventually I ended up forced to talk to one of them on my own to resolve an awkward situation. (it took me a while to actually do it though, since it was scary to talk to someone without someone else to hold up the conversation) Nowadays when I talk to a friend I learn a lot about talking from the interaction and I tend to pick up phrases/mannerisms/speech and conversation patterns from them.

tl;dr: I watched the way other people interacted for as long as I could to see what to do. Eventually, I reached the point where I couldn't rely on that, but by that point I had a decent amount of experience with talking to people and I could muddle my way through. And since then I've started to learn to talk to other people by practicing it instead of just observing (although that's useful too).

[JoshuaFH]

Can you get them on discord, which seems to have easily overtaken Skype as the superior online communication option?

[Gunner-Chan]

So while I'm still gunner-chan on here, I've been going by some name variation of "koa" as a shortening of koakuma in a lot of places, sometimes mixed up with the word kon because foxes ye.

So running into this when popping in for the day is so weird and hilariously awkward. Heeelllpp! I've become a civilization!

[Eric Blank]

This is what happens when you dont wash behind your ears like mom told you to. Whole empires sprout from your noggin. And then what!?


So in happier news i finally get the chance to sleep. Yay!
It took fricken forever. And i only get like 6 hours. Graveyard shift suuucks

[overseer05-15]

So while I'm still gunner-chan on here, I've been going by some name variation of "koa" as a shortening of koakuma in a lot of places, sometimes mixed up with the word kon because foxes ye.

So running into this when popping in for the day is so weird and hilariously awkward. Heeelllpp! I've become a civilization!

What are the immigration policies you have
I'm thinking of relocating