Mmrgh, you know what, if you two hate voyager that's fine. You've been around long enough to give it a shot. Different strokes.
Voyager had a spectacular premise, a lot of really good ideas, and abysmal execution. The heights of Voyager count among the greatest bits of the series, but the lows make "Spock's Brain" look like a masterpiece by comparison.
As for the TOS statement that "Women can't be starship captains", that came from a body-stealing lunatic, and is easy to dismiss on that basis.
The Prime Directive barely existed in TOS
It is more that the TOS era wasn't riding is soapbox and crying tears of blood about the Prime Directive all the time... all while butchering the point of the prime directive.
They mention it plenty of times.
The Prime Directive was very weak in TOS compared to TNG and later. At least half of Kirk's missions (as in, what he was
sent in to do) would have been verboten on later shows. A law that requires you to watch an entire species go extinct because their planet is dying just because they don't have star travel would never have allowed many of the events of TOS (the one we were discussing in particular - Picard would never have been allowed to even
talk to Sigma Iotia II). My own fan-theory was that by the time of TNG Starfleet had overreacted to Kirk's shenanigans and made the PD more and more restrictive to prevent repeats.