Think that's bad? Have that, along with constant/consistent statements from all kinds of people, family and friends (and associates/strangers) alike, saying all kinds of positive reinforcement of that kind of stuff, like "You'll be fighting women off of you (because you'll be attracting all kinds), you have nothing to worry about." and other bullshit like that, and still have the same predictable crappy results, and... well, you get the idea.
The ladies will love your curly hair, they said. They'll envy it, they said.
They're right, with the caveat that said ladies are three times my age.
Times are a little bit changed though, as are people. We have means of hooking up with people that we've never had before, and we have new pastimes that keep us from ever going out and meeting people. That friend that we would expect to be the go-between and drop heavy hints is now a dating site or phone application and the cold, unblinking databases behind them. And of course, we're all very, very afraid of defeat and rejection.
There's no easy solution, no singly desirable character trait, no magnetism but the raw confidence it takes to put oneself out there and try, and try again, and again. Maybe the confidence manifests in how you hold yourself, or present yourself, or pursue your passions, but having it is not enough. You have to direct it.
There's this idea that a relationship will happen when you're not looking for one, with the idea being that you will not act awkwardly and artificially in your interactions, but this bears the similar message that it would just happen without needing to try for it and, existentially speaking, that doesn't fly so well either.
This is a little rambly, I suppose, and I'm rather better at speaking about such ideas than I am at following them. Things are different now, and you have to get uncomfortable to make them happen, I suppose is what I mean to say.
The said the same thing about my arrow-straight hair. I suspect either only older women feel it's appropriate to comment on, or it doesn't actually matter all that much and they were just looking to pay a complement. And the whole mutual acquaintance/friend of a friend thing still works for something more long term than:
"hey bb, wan sum fuk?"
"k."
Don't get me wrong, if that's what you want I've heard mostly good about those sites. But even then it's not as much the case as they would have you believe.
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