In further adventures of "Kagus charms the ladies", I was at a bar a while back and this gal sat next to me and then scooched closer. I introduced myself, we started talking... And kept talking... And kept talking...
I started flirting, fairly heavily. She didn't have anything against it, so I kept going. It got a bit crazy after a while with me damn near sitting on the same stool as her, but she still seemed a-okay with the situation.
We ended up moving to a booth to continue the chat, I moved closer, started playing with her hair and putting my arm around her. Again, all green. She asked me for my number, inquired if I had work in the morning, stuff like that.
Then after a total conversation time of about, ooh... Five hours or so, we decided to hit the road. After departing from the establishment, we walked a little ways down the street before I pulled her close, put my hand on her neck, gazed deeply into her eyes, and was about to go in for a smooch when...
"Can I give you a hug? I'mma give you a hug", and then she gave me a hug.
"I don't kiss people on a first meeting", she added helpfully.
So she went her way to check out one of the other bars for familiar faces, and I went home. But not before she gave me another hug and said that we should really grab a cup of coffee some time, "If you drink coffee". Fun night.
She had my number, so we kept in touch a bit after that... Chatted a fair deal, decided to eventually get that cup of coffee, cleared up that I'm not looking for a long-term relationship and I'm just looking for some fun, she said she was in the same boat, things went fairly well and after we said our goodbyes I threw out a risky and very obvious text that was actually quite well-received.
We went on another spontaneous date after that, and then a third after that... And absolutely nothing has happened. The last date we actually zipped in to the same bar as when we first met, and her favorite bartender came in so she had to go gaga over him a little bit while I was sitting there. So that's fun too.
Haven't really talked since then.
Then there was another chick who'd asked me out on a date, we grabbed coffee, we again both made it clear that neither of us is looking for something heavy. We part ways, I make a blunt offer, she responds favorably.
We meet up out on the town later on, she more or less ignores me the whole night and then laughs in my face when I suggest her sticking around.
I brought up some of this with a female friend of mine, and she advised me that I'm entirely too nice and likable to pick people up. What I apparently need to do, according to her; is to go out and be as cold and uninterested as possible, flirt a little bit with my target, flirt a lot with everyone else, ignore her for the rest of the night, and then towards the end just sorta walk past her. "That works", my friend assured me.
Fuck this shit.