This is sort of a WTF post then also a heads-up post.
I have this friend I grew up with in my neighborhood, we were friends at beginning but as puberty turned in we sort of distanced but still remained friends.
I started to dislike him, for his strange way of thought, foolish assumptions and he constantly had (IMO) wrong view on life.
Other friends in our "clique" kinda agreed with me of his (IMO) bad qualities, and soon I was the one who ended up mocking him in front of the group and sort of treating him like the lowest one in our group (and the group supported me in that).
His views were mistaken, he constantly believed every rumor he heard. He was naive as hell and also got excited easily.
He was also little bit obsessed with his hobbies, bit compulsive and needy.
So that´s how I perceived him as a weak/bad person or one of those high functioning nerds.
Today, I was checking my Facebook and I see this awesome photo, it looks like it was made in studio or something.
It was posted a hell of a six minutes ago and already received 20 likes.
In that photo, he is with this beautiful girl, kissing her, while they both have super-decent clothes on.
I quickly go like, "Whoa he got a girlfriend, last time he had one it was some stupid chick."
I proceed to check her Facebook profile and my jaw dropped, she is Miss internet of some semi-famous contest.
I keep checking out her page and whoa, she has a lot of likes in every her photo (average 400) (And she indeed is pretty looking)
This completely shattered me perception of him, I considered him a lost cause when it came to girls and now he surpassed me.
They are both 17 and publicly posted that they plan to marry.
I then keep lurking around like the envious bastard I am (about that later) and I see a lot of people responding to this photo, he is in this large social circle and he is quite liked in there.
More I examine the social life of this girl, it is more obvious she is quite wanted.
I am amazed and confused by my own reactions and now I am also thinking about myself.
Before I decided to write this post here on B12 my first second reaction was kinda envious-rage, I am cool about it now, but that was what I felt at first.
To explain this further, I moved away from the city that we both lived in and I only occasionally go back to visit my old friends, next time I am going to be there in December I am going to congratulate him instead of being snarky, because whoa, this changes my view on life.
I was maybe thinking too much white-and-black about certain things and I can´t forget that I underestimated this dude, I now wonder if I should feel bad about myself but I am not here to ramble about my infinite internal conflicts.
I posted it here to sort of spread the positive vibe out of this, I was selfish and treated him bad yes, but ain´t his success awesome? The two years I was away from him, he may have succeeded in something that I am still trying to. (Teenager dreams for lyfe)
So, the moral of the story is to keep trying? Whatever.