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[Criptfeind]

Yeah. Everyone does so. It is nothing to be worried about.

Just so long as you don't go to far or to much and lose your inner sense of self.

[Tellemurius]

..... fuck im too open.

[Vector]

Yeah. Everyone does so. It is nothing to be worried about.

Just so long as you don't go to far or to much and lose your inner sense of self.

I'm not worried about it.  I just find it kind of funny that I play stupid, rather than playing nice because I'd rather seem buffoonish than declaw myself.

[Darvi]

I usually do it to distance myself from people. You are less likely to get into an argument with a dick if you're obviously too distracted to notice them (which I frankly often am).

[RedKing]

Hmm. That sorta dovetails with an odd habit I have of not looking at a person when I'm talking to them. Like, even if they're in my face, my eyes tend to focus on a random spot just past them or beside them, or if I'm walking, a random spot on the ground.

I've heard this behavior is linked to some forms of autism, because actually making and sustaining eye contact is apparently incredibly uncomfortable for many autistic people. But with me, it's purely reflexive. If I make a deliberate attempt to make eye contact (while delivering a speech, for instance), I can without too much problem. But it's still a good too to ignore dipshit coworkers who want to waste my time with small talk. Between that and my steadily declining hearing, I can pretend that I just didn't notice them there.

[Vector]

Yeah, I have damned hard time making eye contact without it being some sort of penetrating death-stare.  I spend most of the time when I'm talking or thinking looking to the side, because... well, as I've said before, you can have understanding and output or eye contact, but not both.

Using it to ignore people, though... hmm, that's actually an interesting idea >_> <_<

[Keita]

I remember making myself the class clown deliberatly in secondary school, it was impossible for me to get any friends otherwise as I just didn't fit in :/

[Criptfeind]

Hah hah yeah. Making jokes cause you don't fit in with other people.

We have all gone though that hah hah...

Glad we don't have to do that anymore...

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[Darvi]

Does one still count as a class clown if everybody else is one too?

[Keita]

Well, class clown more like making an ass of your self and getting in trouble deliberatly.

[Mindmaker]

I've heard this behavior is linked to some forms of autism, because actually making and sustaining eye contact is apparently incredibly uncomfortable for many autistic people.

Well, I had problems establishing eye-contact with women, in fear of it being percieved as creepy or uncomfortable.
I'm actually not sure if I've gotten over it yet. At least works when a socially accepted context is given (work/buying things in shops etc.).

[Vector]

Yeah, I don't get in trouble, and I don't try to make an ass of myself.  I just add a few "endearingly negative" traits so that my actual bad points can be seen as part of a larger picture, rather than overwhelming.

... Crouching Moron, Hidden Mathematician.

[Keita]

... Crouching Moron, Hidden Mathematician.

Sigged

[Darvi]

I prefer this trope.

[Solifuge]

So you adjusted yourself in order to make friends?

Public mask, my friend.

In a similar vein, I made a point of adding "like", "ain't", and several curse words to my vocabulary, as well as cribbing mannerisms from country accents, so I didn't sound so stodgy and intellectual all the time; my way of speaking as a kid seemed to make it hard for my peers to relate to me, and sometimes pissed people off (including my stepdad). I continued to write the same way as I used to speak, though.

These days, there's a huge divide between the way I write and talk, and I probably sound like a different person entirely. I've been trying to reconcile my writing and speaking voice more recently, but it's tough to change when it's so thoroughly ingrained in behavior!