...then I'll call 911 and get treated by a doctor. What the hell else would I do? Friends and Romanic Partners have absolutely nothing to do with that.
That's easy to say when you're sixteen years old. I wasn't talking about immediate medical attention, I was talking about things you might need help with afterwards. I've been in situations and seen plenty of other people in situations where they temporarily have great difficulty fending for themselves, physically or emotionally, for a variety of reasons.
I understand their reasoning, I just find that reasoning to be incorrect. People engage in meaninful social relationships because they feel unfufiled by themselves alone, and desperately seak out platonic and romantic confort to fill the perceived hole in their lives. This has the potential to end badly in any myriad of ways, be it total emotional collapse when the support of that person is taken away, or more specific things such as the rapid gain/loss of property in a divorce. Losses in relationships can also be come very extreme, to the point of things such as Murder-Suicides when one party refuses to live or allow the other party to live without their relationship. There also exists the poteintal for unhapply continuing a dead relationship, due to a desire to avoid the shockingly extreme negitive stigma attached to the end of a friendship or romance by society in general. I understand just fine.
You don't understand just fine. You think you do because you're a teenager who thinks he has the entire world figured out because of his own limited experiences the fact that he knows a great deal more than he used to as a child (and a great deal less than he will as an adult).
Nobody has to tell me (or anyone else here) that relationships can end badly, but it's pure lunacy to say that the only reason people get into relationships is because they need to "desperately seek" to fill a hole in their lives. There are many reasons why people engage in relationships, and I honestly find it depressing that I need to explain basic human interaction to someone who's been on this planet almost 17 years.
Relationships with others offer all kinds of emotional and practical support you simply aren't going to find from strangers. If you don't have anyone you can really trust and relate to, then your
own development as a person is stunted. Hell, that's one of the reasons we have friends in the first place: Friends influence each other as they develop through life individually. I've seen what happens when people develop through life on a social island (self-imposed or not), and it isn't freaking pretty. Friends and family keep you in check when you fuck up (even when you don't know you have), offer insight, and provide examples of other human lives with which you are intimate, but which are different from yours. These things are extremely important, and if you get too self-absorbed then you wind up getting strange, alienated, bitter, and socially and emotionally underdeveloped. When left to your own thoughts, without anyone else you can trust or relate to, for extremely long periods of time, your entire worldview and method of operation goes unchecked and underinfluenced; this is one method by which to become a total crackpot by the time you're 30, because you've already given up on trying to relate to or understand anyone else as a human being.
Here's what I think has happened, although I could be wrong: You're a teenager. You're in high school, probably around 11th grade (by US standards). That's a really shitty time, when a lot of bad things can happen that would potentially sour you to the concept of relationships in general. That's normal. However, you can't assume that all of life is high school. There are serious cognitive biases in play here; you're weighting your own experiences very, very heavily, without enough consideration of the fact that it won't always be that way. You try to tell yourself it will with scare stories of murder-suicide, and divorce rates, and all these other things, but for the love of God, you might as well use things like that as an excuse not to leave your house in the morning. Odds are, you don't want to be a social creature because socialization at your age
really, really, really blows, but the reason people stick with it is because that's a necessary period to go through before it can have the opportunity to
not blow. Adolescence is tough, but it happens for a reason. On the other side of things, not everybody will
be a high schooler for your entire life, and as you get older, your opportunities to pick and choose who you associate with will grow in number and importance.
The truth can be a painful thing.
If you think deep, intimate socialization is only due to desperate validation-seeking, then you don't understand
primates, let alone humans.
Not many, I'm sure, but it is a recorded phenomenon.
So is getting struck by lightning on a clear day. Better not go outside!
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