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What is your gender/ What are you? (Voting is anonymous)

Male
- 265 (71.2%)
Female
- 22 (5.9%)
Dwarf Male
- 39 (10.5%)
Dwarf Female
- 4 (1.1%)
Goblin
- 42 (11.3%)

Total Members Voted: 372

Voting closed: October 29, 2010, 10:24:03 am


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« Reply #15 on: July 22, 2010, 04:55:13 pm »

Every time I play The Sims, I find myself setting up my house with dwarven sensibilities.  Crappy bedrooms, huge dining rooms, booze instead of TVs, etc.  I also value cooking skill above gainful employment.  Needless to say, my Sims households tend to go the way of my dwarf fortresses.
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« Reply #16 on: July 22, 2010, 05:03:41 pm »

Kohaku with the mention of the Sims you actually brought up one of the reasons why I was interested in finding out what the actual female / male ratio is though I had a suspicion that it would be testosterone heavy.

I figured that Dwarf fortress is in some ways a lot like  the sims. We govern the lives of individual characters  not in a direct way as in the standard RTS but more in a managerial role.  And as some us have proven even men can make their "dwarf" caves quite pretty.To me the 2 games seem very alike on that front.

Except the games aren't very similar if you look at the appeals of what you actually do in to a house in the two games.  In The Sims, you can construct the house from the foundation up, pick out wallpaper and carpets, furnish it, including with custom mod furniture, of which there is a bajillion on the Internet, and fashion design your little Sims house as much as you see fit.  It is, pretty much, the entire point of the game.

In DF, there really isn't much to do - you dig out a few tiles of room, throw a bed, maybe a container and a dresser down, and call it a day.  If you get all fancy, and do an engraving, it will probably be of someone who lived 100 years ago being eaten by an ettin.  Or of dogs screaming while they get turned into doggy shnitzel.  Housing is pretty much just someting that keeps dwarves from being angry that they sleep in mud.


I concede to you the points on the social and technical aspects though one might also argue that the technical barriers of the game should present the same difficulties to men and to women.  As the counter to that of course one might argue that men have traditionally held more roles in the IT sector and thereby more of us have at least a rough background understanding of whats going on.

It's just as easy for a woman to learn geology or what have you as it is for men, but the difference is in the willingness to learn.  It's not about being hard, but about how someone feels about themselves and how they conform to their own gender stereotypes.  If you got some kindergardeners who were on a field trip to a museum, and tried to start selling them the wonders of geology, and started with melting things with magma or making steel to create serrated buzzsaw traps to cut goblins to bits... would you expect more of the boys or the girls to be interested in your lecture?

The one point I do not really agree on is that you said :

So yes, I would expect a serious gender bias, and for most female forumgoers to not particularly want to hop out from behind the cloak of anonymity to identify themselves.

These forums aren't exactly leet speaking TF2 forums filled with 13 and 14 year olds taking their first steps into the online world and trying to measure out each others e-peens.

These forums here strike me as being used by a very mature crowd although it can become silly sometimes. So I don't think that even if a women was to identify herself she would face any sort of harrassment from testosterone rich teens which is honestly where the vast majority of the "OMG girls" comes from.  Even if she did I'm very confident that a large part of the forums user base would arrange for a meeting between  an Atom smasher and the perpetrator.

Maybe I should compare this place to another male-dominated Internet site, then: Wikipedia.  Wikipedia, because of its confrontational, prove-it-in-writing approach, has almost completely driven out anyone but the scientifically inclined relatively young male nerd demographic.  Women do not like an environment where every statement they make can be challenged, and must be backed up in triplicate.  E-peens or not, that's the environment we have, where you have to show your work.

There are quite a few gaming communities where women show them self's without any sort of attention being brought to it.

Take the WoW forums for example in those forums women have very little issues with proclaiming who and what they are. Its just simple everyday stuff there. From what I know of the EVE community it is much the same there.

And yet, those games are social games.  Even if they are competitive, they are designed to heavily encourage team play.  I remember reading an article in either Time or Newsweek recently about the difference between whether boys or girls consider their sports activities to be about striving to excell, or to be about trying to dominate the other side.  Males, regardless of which they were trying to do, felt fairly good about themselves, but females were significantly more likely to feel depressed and isolated for trying to dominate others.  The attempt to act outside the gender role isolates girls from their peers, and is discouraged, rather than rewarded as a male would have been.  Maybe it's not fair, but that's how it works.

Anyway in the end the ratio is becoming quite obvious.  For the sake of a discussion  , what could be done to make the game more female friendly. Would the inclusion of say a Social networking style   "friends chat" or chat rooms with an easy way to transfer in game images  solve the matter to a large extend. Or would we need a serious graphical overhaul.

It would take a conscious effort to change the focus of the game, honestly.  I've been saying pretty often that this game can be divided into two major focuses: military and architecture/engineering.  Females are not attracted to the kind of military we are dealing with, which is largely a sober analysis of the most efficient ways to seperate goblins and elves and kittens from their limbs in such a thoroughly detached way that litterally all you see is an "E" and a "2" fly apart, with some background colors turning red.  The Architechture is a potential draw, but only if you were to have more ability to actually see and interact with and customize what you are making. 

What would really help, however, is making another draw for the game, which is what I was trying to do in this suggestion, by making social classes and demands for better quality of life a part of the game.  Like I said before, currently, there is no reason to give dwarves much more than a bed, food, booze, some statues in the dining room, and keep them from direct danger.  The environment of the dwarves is fairly sterile and bleak.  Giving dwarves more personality, some politics, and most of all, the reason to build all those fireplaces and carpets and tapestries and allow players to design high-class neighborhoods with parks and recreation would give a focus on society-building that would be far more attractive than simple deathtrap engineering or sending champions out to effortlessly slaughter 90 goblins in a race to see who can make the longest kill list.
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« Reply #17 on: July 22, 2010, 05:18:13 pm »

I was playing a match of Zombie Master a few days ago.  There were only about three people on the server (including me), and then someone else joined.

'Nichee' had a mic, and had one of those voices where you can't quite figure out the gender of the person talking.  I didn't pay much attention to it until guy #1 asked if Nichee was a girl.  After a little back and forth of "maaaayyybeeee...", Nichee said she was indeed a girl.

The reactions were quite interesting.  I didn't believe her, Guy #1 believed her and started talking about the relationship between girls and gaming, and Guy #2 asked her for a blowjob.

Later, Nichee revealed that she had gotten a little bit tipsy before playing.  Guy #1 started talking about the relationship between girls and drinking, Guy #2 asked her for a blowjob again, and I did some white knighting by saying that Guy #2's actions should be excused because he had a lobotomy for lunch.

Then the C4 got caught in a tornado and I jumped off a roof.


I can't possibly imagine why gamer girls would want to hide their identities...  Oh, and while I am a male, I'm going to put myself down as a goblin.  Long story.

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« Reply #18 on: July 22, 2010, 05:19:56 pm »

I'm trying to work out just what it is about Dwarf Fortress that attracts me to it. I think, in the end, it's gotta be the potential for story.

My favorite aspect has to be the military one, where you defend your little hole in the ground from hostile invaders. The wound system and the one-step button make this particularly exciting as battles unfold. And then you can root for your favorite dwarves to surmount impossible odds and glory in your champions' kill count (and engravings of their feats).
Some events happen thanks to coincidence (happy or tragic), and for some, it's a race against time as you beg that little smiley face to cross the screen just a little faster. You can try to build a fort in the worst of places, get picky nobles to assassinate themselves, build massive tombs for the greatest heroes of your fortress, and Legends mode can tell some rad stories that you don't get to see for yourself. Same thing goes for the threads people make about community fortresses - I like seeing how things play out in general, along with the stupid/awesome things individual dwarves get caught doing.

The difficulty of learning the mechanics of the game (and learning to interpret what you're seeing onscreen) is just a challenge that makes it more fun in the end, I think.

And for the record, I'm female. X)

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The reactions were quite interesting.  I didn't believe her, Guy #1 believed her and started talking about the relationship between girls and gaming, and Guy #2 asked her for a blowjob.

Guy #2 is exactly why I tend not to use my mic in TF2, unless it's a server where they're used to seeing me.
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« Reply #19 on: July 22, 2010, 05:21:35 pm »

I was playing a match of Zombie Master a few days ago.  There were only about three people on the server (including me), and then someone else joined.

'Nichee' had a mic, and had one of those voices where you can't quite figure out the gender of the person talking.  I didn't pay much attention to it until guy #1 asked if Nichee was a girl.  After a little back and forth of "maaaayyybeeee...", Nichee said she was indeed a girl.

The reactions were quite interesting.  I didn't believe her, Guy #1 believed her and started talking about the relationship between girls and gaming, and Guy #2 asked her for a blowjob.

Later, Nichee revealed that she had gotten a little bit tipsy before playing.  Guy #1 started talking about the relationship between girls and drinking, Guy #2 asked her for a blowjob again, and I did some white knighting by saying that Guy #2's actions should be excused because he had a lobotomy for lunch.

Then the C4 got caught in a tornado and I jumped off a roof.


I can't possibly imagine why gamer girls would want to hide their identities...  Oh, and while I am a male, I'm going to put myself down as a goblin.  Long story.

I'm hoping that was sarcasm, but...

You ask why girls might not want to identify themselves right after telling a story about where, immediately after a girl identified herself as a girl, one of the guys started repeatedly asking her for a blowjob... consider that for a while.
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« Reply #20 on: July 22, 2010, 05:29:06 pm »

I have a very powerful imagination.  Generally when I say "I can't possibly imagine", it means I can and have already.

And while Guy #2 was indeed a brain damaged little prat, also consider the fact that Guy #1 was more interested in discussing the secrets of womanhood with her than actually playing the game (although admittedly, "playing" at that point had basically just devolved into tornado surfing and placing zombies in the skybox).

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« Reply #21 on: July 22, 2010, 05:31:26 pm »

I'm trying to work out just what it is about Dwarf Fortress that attracts me to it. I think, in the end, it's gotta be the potential for story.

My favorite aspect has to be the military one, where you defend your little hole in the ground from hostile invaders. The wound system and the one-step button make this particularly exciting as battles unfold. And then you can root for your favorite dwarves to surmount impossible odds and glory in your champions' kill count (and engravings of their feats).
Some events happen thanks to coincidence (happy or tragic), and for some, it's a race against time as you beg that little smiley face to cross the screen just a little faster. You can try to build a fort in the worst of places, get picky nobles to assassinate themselves, build massive tombs for the greatest heroes of your fortress, and Legends mode can tell some rad stories that you don't get to see for yourself. Same thing goes for the threads people make about community fortresses - I like seeing how things play out in general, along with the stupid/awesome thing individual dwarves get caught doing.

I think it would be useful to compare this to the thread called something like "I found out I actually hated my dwarves when..."  where people talked about doing things like seeing dwarves as so utterly impersonal and interchangable that they make naming bridges to kill off most of their immigrants just so that the survivors are the ones that have something memorable about them.

While it might sound odd to say, I have some tastes in gaming that tend to more traditionally be lures for the female gamer, one of which is definitely the ability to identify with the units I'm pushing around, and feeling like I'm at least not an outright hostile deity, if not a benevolent one.  Plus, the whole ability to actually take the time to make your sim-city/ancient chinese town/whatever a beautiful and enriching place to live, rather than a blasted Hellscape that is perpetually decorated in blood and vomit kind of appeals to me, too.  Which is part of why I made that suggestion for making dwarves more individualistic, and actually be more of the sort of thing that you could imagine stories for.
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« Reply #22 on: July 22, 2010, 06:04:56 pm »

>0 female dwarfs. . . heehee
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« Reply #23 on: July 22, 2010, 07:40:30 pm »

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What do you think is the barrier , if there is one ,that keeps women from this game?
Is it that their simply not exposed to it as much? Do you think its social pressures? Would you agree with Kohagu on any points?

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So are you saying that ladies should just let it slide, water of a ducks back?

If the answer is no. Then why should they just let it go? Most guys would start trash talking back.


What do you think? how should they act in that case.In a lot of the "hardcore" gaming market situations can be avoided if Gender is not brought up. For example even in wow. A few of the Bleeding edge raiding guilds do not allow women into their raids. Their reason for it is that women cause to much drama.

They take this very seriously.


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« Reply #24 on: July 22, 2010, 07:51:38 pm »

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« Reply #25 on: July 22, 2010, 07:56:57 pm »

I have a very powerful imagination.  Generally when I say "I can't possibly imagine", it means I can and have already.

And while Guy #2 was indeed a brain damaged little prat, also consider the fact that Guy #1 was more interested in discussing the secrets of womanhood with her than actually playing the game (although admittedly, "playing" at that point had basically just devolved into tornado surfing and placing zombies in the skybox).
Even that's really silly. I mean do people always start to talk about masculinity in gaming when you meet a male online?

I think that's why girls don't always like to tell their sex - they immediately become identified as "gamer girl" instead of a person. Both reactions were really sexist, the second guy was just also an obnoxious idiot.
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« Reply #26 on: July 22, 2010, 08:20:23 pm »

Am rather suprised by the outcome of this poll. I would have expected there to be more female players then this, with a game that has many kinds of appeal to it. From the sims-like household management on a larger scale, to nifty architecture and mechanics, to the merciless slaughtering of everything that moves in horrendous detail.

Maybe it is that the game has a rather technical feel to it? No, dont go calling me a sexist here. I attend an engineering university, and the male/female ratio there is more then abbysmal enough to know women tend to avoid technical occupations more then men.

Of course this is an internet poll we are dealing with, and they tend to be horrendously inaccurate.

As for the whole gamer-girl-discussion: I fully understand why female players would want to not let other gamers know their gender. Even as a guy I tend to get kind of annoyed and embarrased at the reaction some of the people I regularly play games with when a girl shows up (or even some unidentified person with a female name/player model). Chatting up a girl is one thing, but it way too quickly reaches to point of just plain harrasement. That, and the actual game immediately degenerates into some sort of chatroom. One full of the lame jokes and pickup lines everyone allready heard a thousand times.
I once got especialy annoyed when I visted my sister and heard her play a game with voice chat on. The exact reaction as above.
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« Reply #27 on: July 22, 2010, 08:35:57 pm »

Am rather suprised by the outcome of this poll. I would have expected there to be more female players then this, with a game that has many kinds of appeal to it. From the sims-like household management on a larger scale, to nifty architecture and mechanics, to the merciless slaughtering of everything that moves in horrendous detail.

I'd say this poll turned out close to how I expected.  I expected a 9:1 ratio of men to women, but it was actually more like 11:1, and that's not counting "goblin" either way.  (Which would be 13:1 if those are indeed all male.)  Naturally, this poll is still open, though.

As for "many kinds of appeal", well, like I said, there really ISN'T a sims-like household management in this game.  (That's actually what I have in that suggestion...)  Architecture would be wonderful, if only you could really SEE your own architecture without the use of visualizers that aren't even a part of the game.  And, again, making "E" tokens start having a red background isn't exactly appealing to many women, much less the current Adventure Mode prospect of "spend umpteen hours grinding by throwing dirt clods or something, only to finally set out on your epic quest to kill every friggin' thing in the world that can be targetted.  No real reason, just 'cuz that's the only thing to do around here."

Some of the upcoming adventure mode stuff inspires hope, though.  It almost looks like we can play Harvest Moon (signficiantly more popular with women than men, FYI) in DF, except with elephants and giant tigers and cave crocodiles as livestock instead of boring ol' cows and chickens.  With a tame ridable minotaur. WHEEEEEEE!  If you put some of that on stonesense, and took screenshots, I bet you could round up some more female players.

But again, I do really think that one of the turn-offs for women in this game is the lack of ability to really empathize with your dwarves.  Currently, they are your mindless slaves, they have no personalities, no wants, no aspirations, only a few baseline biological needs, and you, the player's megalomaniaical drive to build monuments like a giant wooden middle finger flipping off the world.  Right now, there is only one real person in DF, and it's YOU.
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« Reply #28 on: July 22, 2010, 08:40:31 pm »

I think it really comes down to DF being a real "hardcore" gaming. That is, it takes some inner nerd to get over the learning curve and appreciate the programming put into the game.

And females have unfortunately not integrated themselves in that great numbers to the nerd culture yet. It's still a guy thing.
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« Reply #29 on: July 22, 2010, 08:43:52 pm »

Am I being misunderstood, or am I the one doing the misunderstanding?

Both posts were meant to present reasons as to why women might want to hide their gender from the gaming community.  I try to make the gaming world more hospitable to female gamers by treating them like everybody else, and yet I even notice changes in my behaviour when someone of that persuasion makes themselves known.  Usually I just start acting more polite than usual, but it's still a change based on gender.

Yes, I realize that both Guy #1 and Guy #2 were acting inappropriately.  They were doing so to completely different degrees, but it shouldn't have been there at all.  Even me with my automatic defense of her was because she was female (although I do tend to take whatever opportunities I can find for putting down people who act like that).


I'm not trying to say it doesn't happen, nor am I trying to downplay the reactions.  Quite the opposite.  I've had my sarcastic remarks misinterpreted many times before, but I think this is the first time I've had my explanation fall into the same trap.


Hell, now we're even getting touchy on the subject of defending female gamers, which just emphasizes the difference even more.  Can't we all just play some Zombie Master and shoot some zeds up in happy sharing equality?
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