Except that BS12 is prodded full of cybering, metafriending and general asshattery.
There was a guy who was banned for killing an admin playing as syndicate.
Theres alot of metagrugding. And metarelationships.
This may seem a little OTT with negativity, and it sounds more like someone heard this second-hand rather than experienced it first-hand, but here's a point-of-view from someone who used to play on there:
Cybering is actually a bannable offense on there (But this was only ruled recently), meta-friendships are very present though (There have been quite a few in-game marriage events between characters (Personally I think they're stupid, but some players seem to genuinely enjoy them)). General asshattery is a little vague, though, I can't think of any examples of it.
Admins banning for OOC reasons is something that also occurs, as long as the victim lodges an official complaint it's usually dealt with (The guilty admin is rarely given anything more than a verbal warning, though), but people are often too afraid to.
Can't comment on the metagrudging, never seen it, but it could be there.
BS12 has some good points, it's the most RP-heavy server that I know of (This could be good or bad, depending on your opinion), the community (in general) is very friendly and helpful, their staff (Moderators, not admins) are active and always available, and the playerbase is quite large.
It also has some bad points, some of the staff can come off as confrontational, the rules you're expected to follow are very different and fairly stricter than what you'd normally encounter in other SS13 servers, and the unique coding touches added by BS12 devs tend to cause more problems than they solve.
Ninja Edit:So, its just like how you have to learn who is generally the craziest in goon so you know what to avoid if possible then?
Yeah it is all sorts of crazy.
SS13 is like an insane asylum where even the staff is crazy.
This, however, is very true.