Ok.
So not really a "rage", but it's a mix of feelings that I don't know where to put it, and this thread has the most context, so I'm putting it here.
But to make it actually fit in the rage thread, I'll go ahead with what happened before that, too.
So, I was at the library earlier, and left to go home, so I could make something for my wife for lunch.
So I get home.
"We need to take my dad somewhere."
I don't even know where, but I don't really care, so I ask "what about lunch?"
She says we'll get something to eat somewhere else. We really need to save money but I don't feel like arguing, so I say fine.
We try to find the wallet, and we can't.
"Oh, it must still be in my mom's purse!"
So that's another place we need to stop by.
So as we're driving to her mom's/grandpa's place, she calls them to let them know to get the wallet out so we can just walk in, grab it, and get out.
But she says "[Cheese] will come in and get it"
So I say "You just said I'd do it, and you didn't even ask me if I would."
"It's just the wallet."
"I don't care about the wallet, it's about you saying I'll do something without even asking first."
"Fine, I'll get it then."
"You already told your mom I'd do it, if you do it, she'll start saying how horrible I am like last time."
So she went on saying that not everyone is against me and I need to stop acting like it (when I said it's not everyone, just her family)
Then we get there, and we both get unbuckled to go get it, and she says that there's no point in me doing it unless it's just to punish her, despite me already stating that it wasn't the case, because it was how her mom would treat it.
I go in and get the wallet, it takes about 5 seconds and nothing happens.
I get back to the car, and she goes on about "at least you got what you wanted", and saying "no wonder we're in therapy".
I point out that one of the reasons we're in therapy is exactly for crap like this, where it's just assumed that I'll mindlessly do everything for everyone.
She said "It's just the wallet."
So I said I already pointed out it wasn't about the stupid wallet, it was about her saying I'll do something without even caring to ask. And how it started out like this before, and then escalated to where I'd have to drop everything I wanted to do because she'd make promises to everyone else, at my expense.
This went on for a while, with "it's just a wallet" being brought up 3 more times.
Then we get to her dad's place.
He needs to go to the medicine shop, and the pawn shop.
He needs to pawn off his DVD player for money for cigarettes because he already wasted the money he got from his disability check on booze and drugs, because he's an idiot.
So we take him to the medicine shop. He doesn't even get what he needs, and is told that they will deliver it when it's actually ready.
So he gets back to the car.
Me: "Where to now?"
Wife: "The pawn shop."
Father in law: "No, I don't have my DVD player with me."
So we ask him why he doesn't have it, if he needed to pawn it.
Father in law: "You didn't tell me to bring it!"
So he's literally trying to blame us for him not bringing his own DVD player, and he goes on like this for a while as I'm taking him back home.
We drop him off, and by this point, we're both too pissed at her dad to resume the earlier argument, so things actually get a bit better.
Because we're both hungry by this time, we head to Speedway because their food is cheap as shit, and we want hot cocoa because it's freezing.
(I added creamer to mine to try it, and licked the creamer cup afterwards. Creamer by itself is fucking amazing. Don't look at me like that.)
So then she says that she doesn't have anything to do because she watched all her movies.
I could have brought up how there's still the TV, the DSi, her multiple unfinished book series, etc., but I didn't want to start that argument again.
So we get the rented DVDs from home and head to video palace.
Now this is the part I wanted to talk about, and didn't know where to put it.
They offered her a job.
No application, no interview, nothing.
They needed workers, and she was a regular enough customer there that they felt they could trust to hire her.
I know damn well that this is not an oppurtunity that comes every day.
She explains that she has luekemia and can't really work, yadda yadda. Anyway, after explaining the things she's not capable of doing, and the person explains that even those wouldn't really be an issue due to the work in question, my wife says she'll think about it and get back to them.
Now, there's two parts to this.
If she got a job, that would 1) make finances a hell of a lot easier, 2) make it so I'm not the only one being depended on, and subsequently give me some damn time to myself, and 3) possibly get her to understand that work sucks, and stop acting like my job isn't a big deal.
HOWEVER, if she got a job, that would pretty much blow a huge fucking hole into her attempts at getting disability, which would be considerably better in the long run, particularly if I end up leaving, because then I won't have to feel like I'm leaving someone without the means to fend for themselves.
But there's a third part to this, that she brought up as an alternative.
She could suggest to them to hire ME, which would get me out of the hellhole that is working at Hardee's.
However, before considering that, I really don't want to quit my relatively secure job to work somewhere that could fire me quickly if I don't work out. (Even the morons at Hardee's are reluctant to fire one of the few competant workers they have had for over 2 and a half years, and I'm aware of that)
So... Yeah.
Lots of stuff to think about.