It's not even that she's bossy, per se. She just walks in and says "I need this" probably once every couple of weeks. Otherwise we have no interaction with her.
Meanwhile, anyone else dealing with anyone technical in the company is always mindful that they're probably interrupting something else they're doing. I learned the hard way, from my developers, from my systems administrator, to approach with caution and with respect for their time. And that is how our whole company rolls, except for her. Talking to the guy who has to do all her art and copy, apparently it's just a thing with her. But goddamnit it gets under my skin, especially as I have to listen to her go after easiest target (my co-worker) and give him orders with workmanlike efficiency like he's one of her employees.
I shouldn't complain really, the budget for her company afforded us a new tech support person, so we're not really two companies yet. Still, she's a social outlier from everyone else I work with, and it's to the point even my project managers are like "Yeah, no, she should not be coming to you guys for this." And that side of the business is only going to go up up up in the next few years, which is just going to make this problem worse.
I wouldn't be bothered by this weird little arrangement we have, and be more than happy to help because I need more experience in that side of the business anyways.....but get that fucking tone in line or you're not getting shit from me. Part of it is I want my co-worker to show a little backbone too, because as long as he's willing to be her whipping boy nothing will really change.
I think that's really the issue. When everyone else makes demands of us, or tasks us with shit, I have real, human interaction with them to soften the blow. But only a few people have any real interaction with her, and I have next to zero. So I don't really know her that well despite the Christmas parties and shit. So there's nothing to make me really like her or understand her beyond her bluntly stated "requests" for help.