So, I was planning on moving in with a friend for the last year or so. Earlier this month, she tells me she doesn't think it's a good idea, she's not comfortable with sharing an apartment with anyone, blah, blah, blah (I suspect her mother, who has an irrational dislike for me, is behind this). But fine, whatever, I'm not gonna push the issue, it's her life.
Week or so later, I finally get all my graduate school application replies back, I only got into one and it's the only one not within easy travel distance of where she's going. So now I have to decide whether to take a year off, get a job for a while and reapply with a (hopefully) stronger application, or go to this other university, get a Master's, and use THAT as my application-strengthener for a PhD. If I do the former, I can pretty much pick wherever I live, so I could live near this friend, and I'd said a few times that I'd try to live within visiting distance so that she's not completely alone in a new city.
Now, here's the thing. I'm talking to her about what I should do, and I say I'm leaning toward the Master's and trying to arrange my schedule so that I could visit her on weekends despite the long drive. And she's completely noncommittal, says I should do what I want, clearly evasive, and so I say I guess I'll do that. Suddenly she starts bitching at me about breaking promises. Because putting off accepting a time-sensitive graduate acceptance to talk this over with her and trying to work out a way that will let me KEEP that promise without forcing her to feel guilty about fucking with my life (which she will if I don't go; between the fact that I know a little about how she thinks and that she's explicitly said so a few times, I think I can be pretty confident about that) is CLEARLY breaking it. ARGH.