It's ok, I'm totally cool with people commenting on and questioning my reasoning when I post something on the internet. If anything, it's kind of fun
What made me mad was how she asked, and what she implied by asking that certain way. Our family takes turns doing the dishes, watering the yard, unloading the dishwasher, other stuff. Making a big breakfast like pancakes is not one of those, it's a task that well, follows a different set of rules. During the weekend, sometimes someone wants to do something special for the family, like make breakfast for everyone, usually pancakes. It's a gift, it's unexpected, and greatly appreciated. And everyone else shows their appreciation by cleaning the breakfast dishes after that. Normally, my dad makes breakfast, and I'm more than willing to help clean up because I really appreciate the hard work he put into making them.
My mom practically stomped on that little tradition. Making pancakes is not a "turn taking" task, it's a spontaneous gift of love, which is reciprocated by everyone in return. She just wanted pancakes, and she didn't even want to ask politely, and she didn't offer to clean the dishes either. And she couldn't even ask politely, she felt the need to pull a guilt trip out of nowhere when I would have done it if she was nice about it. And she does this often, with almost everything she asks me to do.
About that earlier incident, no it wasn't a door she wanted me to open, it was a lightswitch she wanted turned off. Looking back on that incident though, yeah just turning it off would have saved me a lot of trouble <_< My reasons for not doing it were 1)I was busy with a League of Legends match. The lightswitch won't commit seppiku if I take too long. 2)She was using her usual guilt tripping to get me to do it. 3)I'd already done a bunch of things for her that day. Usually running silly errands up and down the stairs for pickles and other stuff. I'd had enough, she could wait a freaken minute.