I would have to agree, in some regards. Given that every form of life we know is based on a very similar chemical make up, with very similar senses, structures, and capabilities (all things considered) and given that the universe is full of vastly different worlds than our own... I don't suspect any other self-sustaining reaction similar to what we call "Life on Earth" can even be imagined. We are projecting ourselves and our knowledge into space, thinking of what we would do if an advanced form of ourselves were out there, comming for us in spaceships.
Look for a moment at cats and humans. We have vastly different emotional, sensory, and psychological structures than they do, and yet they share most of our DNA. When looking at Extraterrestrials, we aren't even necessarily looking at DNA, emotions, or minds at all anymore. They probably don't have the same shared ancestors as us, and we aren't looking at the biological systems and senses and so on that Earth Life evolved to use.
We might encounter a mass of self-replicating methane-componds that fueled its "biology" using electromagnetic pulses from a pulsar instead of sunlight or food, and "sensed" and communicated using fluctuations in magnetic fields. That's about as feasible as Earth life, which is a mass of carbon-based chemicals that that derives all its energy from UV radiation from a star, and communicates by making vibrations in the air, no?
When considering Alien "life" it's not a matter of languages or social differences or technological differences, but a completely different "thing" most probably sharing nothing in common with anything we have on Earth. We probably won't have enough similarities to even attempt communication, because we may well not share senses. They probably wouldn't even share our central nervous system, and may not even have memories or emotions or experiences anything like ours.
When considering alien "life", consider just how alien the thigns on earth are. Jellyfish have no brains, and yet can hunt, communicate, and reproduce just fine. Water Bears can dessicate completely, and remain completely dry and "dead" for hundreds of years, yet when they hit water, they come back to life. And we're all based on the same things. Imagine, then, what would emerge from planets that have no sun, or which drift through nebulas of ionized gas, or are blasted regularly by intense electromagnetism... and have chemical makeups nothing like that of Earth. Alien "life" may not even originalte on planets, but could be born from gas clouds left by supernovas, and could drift through space filtering chemicals out of nebulas over the centuries.
What then, is advanced technology going to do? If their "biology" prevented them from aging or freezing, and they came from a world with next to no gravity, they could just sling unprotected "explorers" of their kind into space with little more than a giant rubber band and a sketchpad to take notes. That could be the invasion we would face... a little lump of chemicals with the alien equivalent of a charcoal and sketchpad, that slipped into Earth's gravity, and burns up in the atmosphere, with no one any the wiser. Seriously.