may I ask a question? do I lose reputation if I attack and steal land from religious enemies? I just defeated the strong one in the area and I wanted to take the opportunity to take all the now undefended vassals and neighborhood, before other kingdoms get the same idea. But my vassals already get a -6% loyalty due to reputation... which is not good. only luck and positive random events are keeping my kingdom away from destruction. Gifts to vassals help too.
It was my understanding that heathens were all free game (in fact, you
gain piety for fighting them)
If by religious enemies, you mean pagans and muslims, then they are free for all claims to the first conquerer, although you might need to settle religious differences that can send you into debt/chaos/disbelief. They can be avoided if you can convert them by building a church.
Chaoticag supported my idea, and also made the good point that the religious differences in provinces can be troubling. I saw revolts in Severin and Turnu in my game, prompting me to build churches which did eventually convert the provinces.
But then this post comes along:
Anyway, Andrea, yes, your reputation suffers from annexing pagans and muslims.
Which threw me off. Now that I think of it, I believe Il Palazzo is right.
Annexing does hurt your reputation. But its the annex part, not the religious enemy part. At one point (I forget if this is pre-Deus Vult or before some patch or something) you would take control
and ownership of heathen provinces as soon as you finished sieging them. There was no annexation required, it just happened. So back in those days you did not take a reputation hit for taking heathen provinces. But now that you have to annex the provinces via peace proceedings, maybe it still accounts for reputation damages- which would explain Il Palazzo's statement. But I'm really not sure for certain.
And regarding this:
I strongly disagree, lustful=bastards, bastards=trouble. You try killing them, you risk getting "kinslayer", you let them live, you're invinting a knife in the back. Seriously, never give a "vengeful" bastard a piece of land.
Indulgent, on the other hand, seems a o.k. trait.
I disagree. Lustful is fine in a wife, she doesn't produce bastards, only the ruler can. And even then, you have a choice in the matter.