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[Hoborobo234]

Ok, guys I have turned here because I do not know where else to go. there is a girl I know at school (I am 15). this week, I ran into her in the playground. upon sighting me she burst into laughter and cannot seem to stop. I feel that this is not because she find me or my appearance amusing, for her friends do not act the same, nor does any body else at my school.  Her friend took her away and I did not see her until the following lunchtime, where it happened again. There was much muttering between the group of girls, about four in total, including the words " did you tell her?" and "really?". This happened yesterday as well. I must know, does this girl like me? I have broken up for the holidays now, but we are friends on Facebook and I have her as a contact on MSN. Do help me. I fear i have little time in which to act.

[Puck]

I'm going out on a limb here, but why dont you ask her what's up?

[Vector]

Ok, guys I have turned here because I do not know where else to go. there is a girl I know at school (I am 15). this week, I ran into her in the playground. upon sighting me she burst into laughter and cannot seem to stop. I feel that this is not because she find me or my appearance amusing, for her friends do not act the same, nor does any body else at my school.  Her friend took her away and I did not see her until the following lunchtime, where it happened again. There was much muttering between the group of girls, about four in total, including the words " did you tell her?" and "really?". This happened yesterday as well. I must know, does this girl like me? I have broken up for the holidays now, but we are friends on Facebook and I have her as a contact on MSN. Do help me. I fear i have little time in which to act.

... Are you seriously asking us if some girl who randomly burst out laughing upon seeing you likes you?  Really?

My personal interpretation would be "no, her friends are spreading vicious rumors about you, and she has poor control of herself," but I will submit here that I am extremely paranoid and tend to have negative interpretations of things.

You might also want to ask yourself if you're thinking with your brain--rather, do you actually like this person, or do you just like women/the idea of girlfriends in general?  If it's the latter, you might want to rethink asking her out.  That is a recipe for heartbreak.



And yeah, Puck's advice is good >_>

[Psyco Jelly]

In high school, the majority of people just want to publicly humiliate you. There was one girl in my class that liked me, but hated me while anyone was watching.

I'd say it's a good old-fashioned mindfuck.

[KaelGotDwarves]

When you're an old fogey like me, you'll realize that the only women in your life that matter is the woman that accepts you for who you are, your daughter, your mother-in-law, and your mother (maybe your sister).

Teenage girls... man. At 15, worry more about school, friends, and hobbies. I wish I could go back and tell myself that.

HAHAHAHAHAH sorry can't help myself.

[Hoborobo234]

any of you guys from the UK? Things are quite different around here. Other people dont act like that though, I wouldn't see why people are spreading rumours about me. I do not know. the other day though, as I have not told you, she did call out to me, to wave and say hello. Is this significant?

[Cthulhu]

She either likes you, or she's screwing with you to hurt your feelings.  In public school, girls did that and when I went to a private school they didn't.  I thought they did though, and it turned out a girl I knew actually liked me, and wasn't screwing with me.  Whoops.

[Duke 2.0]

Ok, guys I have turned here because I do not know where else to go. there is a girl I know at school (I am 15). this week, I ran into her in the playground. upon sighting me she burst into laughter and cannot seem to stop. I feel that this is not because she find me or my appearance amusing, for her friends do not act the same, nor does any body else at my school.  Her friend took her away and I did not see her until the following lunchtime, where it happened again. There was much muttering between the group of girls, about four in total, including the words " did you tell her?" and "really?". This happened yesterday as well. I must know, does this girl like me? I have broken up for the holidays now, but we are friends on Facebook and I have her as a contact on MSN. Do help me. I fear i have little time in which to act.

I am... quite confused as to the situation present.

 There will be people here who will post about how no isn't the time for petty relationships highschool is known for(And for a reason!). Don't listen to them. Then there will be people who say don't listen to the first group as even small relationships that will go nowhere can be enjoyable. Don't listen to them.

 Dammit, just don't cause drama. Be blunt about asking "So, what the heck was that?" Don't suggest anything other than the fact that the behavior was odd. Those girls can and will backtalk you for any suggestion you put fourth. If nothing happens, look for somebody who does communicate with them but technically is not part of the group and ask them. Remember, first questions should be on what the hell is going on. Don't insinuate anything.

 And please tell me you lucky bastards have recess in middle-school.

[Hoborobo234]

As far as I am aware she is a decent person who wouldn't screw with me. her friends are all very friendly and nice to talk to be around. I wouldn't imagine anybody that I know, bar a few, to screw with me now that I am of a respectable social standing (and I am not going through that to you guys)

[Duke 2.0]

 Then just ask her what the hell is up. Stay chill about it and there should not be much to fear.

[Hoborobo234]

I will be away for the next few days. I will try my best to ask. I am very happy with the advice I have gotten here, thank you very much. It is too late now. I should have asked her earlier on.

[Lord Dakoth]

My 15 year-old sister just read over my shoulder and said this:

"It really doesn't sound like you know this girl, wait for someone real to come out of the fog. Don't go for girls just because you think they like you, or you think it'll work out. It should be a sure thing. I know from experience."

"Plus, if you're too shy to talk to her face-to-face, a dating relationship won't work."

I have to say that I agree with her. It doesn't sound that genuine, no offense. You should just wait for now. If she turns out to really like you, look into it. If she loses interest in a week or two, she wasn't worth it anyways.

[LeoLeonardoIII]

I Xth the advice that you need to talk with her if you want information. That's how adults handle things and solid communication skills will be a requirement in the future anyway.

[Hoborobo234]

Wow thanks guys, I am hoping to look into it today or by Tuesday. After that I suppose there would be no point. I am sorry to have bothered you with such a simple and easy question. Now that you have mentioned these things It seems to obvious to have let it slip my mind. I neede your advice as I am bad socialising.

[chaoticag]

She is probably just nervous. People act funny when they are under stress. I could be very wrong though.

As for communication advice, I find that not making eye contact helps. Looking away makes things look weird, but if you focus on her nose or forehead she shouldn't be able to tell the difference.If it were me, I'd start the conversation with an understatement, but that is up to you.

If you are too nervous about talking to her, you can ask her friend about what was going on. Her friend will tell her about that exchange, because that seems to be how highschool girls work, so use this knowledge to your advantage. It also gives you the option to bail out without too much embarassment, should it turn out to be nothing.

Also, no direct confrontation about her affections, it can only end in tears.