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[martinuzz]

We have a right wing Wilders government.

Their basic government agreement: Farmers are allowed to emit unlimited amounts of nitrogen at 130km/h.
To compensate, we will throw all black people out of our country with more than 130km/h so they can go and emit their stinky foreigner farts elsewhere.

[Egan_BW]

What do you mean by nitrogen? Isn't nitrogen gas harmless? Or do you mean nitrogen in solid stuff, like fertilizer? Then "emit" would be a strange word, that's usually associated with gasses.

[dragdeler]

Mainly too much meat production, lots of the fecal matter is simply strewn on the fields to get rid of it, also nobody in the industry is that concerned about overfertilization, besides lowering yields or overspending. So too much nitrogen gets fixed in the soil. It's also problematic for aquatic life.

[martinuzz]

'Nitrogen emission' is a BIG theme in the EU. It's about fixed nitrogen in fertilizers, but also nitrogenous emissions by building projects, industry etc etc.
Out late elections were won by pro-farmer anti-EU populists and anti-foreigner anti-EU populists.

The 130km/h is an inside joke. Our last government reduced the maximum speed on highways from 130 to 100, to reduce CO2 and nitrogen emissions.
Our new government cancels that and brings it back to 130.

[McTraveller]

I think it's more amusing that the emissions rate was quoted as a speed (kilometers per hour), which is a fairly odd unit to measure emissions.

I just have this silly image of farmers, cackling wildly as they are "emitting" while riding fast-moving vehicles.

[Maximum Spin]

What do you mean by nitrogen? Isn't nitrogen gas harmless? Or do you mean nitrogen in solid stuff, like fertilizer? Then "emit" would be a strange word, that's usually associated with gasses.

Nitrogen gas is harmless, but various nitrogen compounds can cause air and water pollution. In the air the main issue is nitrogen oxides, called NO_x, but farming is not a very significant source; there used to be much more of them in the air from industrial pollution, but pollution controls have reduced this to a minor problem. Although ammonia and nitrates used in farming can break down and release NO_x over time, they are highly water-soluble and so tend not to stay resident in the soil long enough, so the main issue with farming is runoff. Under some circumstances there are worries about groundwater quality, but the main concern driving laws is the effect it has on fishery production - the extra fixed nitrogen washing into surface waters tends to drive growth of large amounts of algae which can deplete other nutrients from the water, especially when they decay, which consumes oxygen and can lead to "dead zones".

Fixed nitrogen in soil isn't a major issue either; extremely heavy application can make the soil acidic but this is rarely a problem except in drought conditions when there is nothing at all to transport the nitrate away. For the same reason, dry conditions are also when the breakdown into NO_x is greatest, which obviously removes it from the soil, although I understand it can't be too dry because the microbes responsible need to, you know, be able to live. (Acidic soil also suppresses them.) For example, those dry valleys in California are often said to be where NO_x emissions from farming are highest, although of course even there it's nothing compared to the industrial emissions of a few decades ago.

[martinuzz]

Grrrrrrr. Fuck you Avast!

Avast! stops support for Firefox

[nenjin]

No loss, because Avast is fucking trash to begin with.

[dragdeler]

You could disable the adware parts until recently, without the browser externsion on top it does look much worse.

[Flying Teasets]

Doge Kabosu has died after illness.

[Magmacube_tr]

No loss, because Avast is fucking trash to begin with.

Yea, what a complete twatwaffle!

Also, who is Avast?

[Great Order]

He's a pirate, you probably won't know him.

[Magmacube_tr]

My thoughts are spiraling on how my love life is going. Or the fact that there isn't one, and never has been one.

The hopeless romantic in me just wants to be loved and to love. To find someone. I am quite surprised how intense this yearning gets sometimes. I am not someone who feels intensely very often (surprising, I know). I am 20 though, so it might be just the instincts instead of anything really profound.

But the logical part of me quietly points out that this theoretical lover won't fall from the ceiling and into my arms. It says that the chances of me even mustering up the emotional energy to form a crush are slim at best. Chances of me actually acting on it, improbable. And me managing to not completely ruin it by being my autistic self in that epsilon chance of those two previous prerequisites being fulfilled? Impossible. I might as well wait for them to actually fall from the ceiling.

And then the paranoia kicks in. What if I am just... fundamentally unlovable? What if my qualities are just... undesirable? Or just straight up unacceptable?

Logical me supplies that there is no reason for me to think this way. That this is something everyone else also feels, and that it isn't the end of the world. Maybe this is just normal for neurodivergent young adults? Or for all young adults to varying degrees? I am not a teenager; I know my problems are uncommon, not unique.

But I can't shake the feeling.

[nenjin]

To be "worthy" of love (a misleading phrase) one must love themselves first. People can sense when you love yourself enough. It radiates as confidence, as authenticity.

And when you meet someone and find a connection, you will be surprised how autonomic the response becomes: you will not "find" the energy to have a crush or pursue it, it will come from within like groundwater coming up through the ground. It is magical, and terrifying.

The risk, then, is having those feelings or creating that connection in your head and heart for the wrong person. That's trial and error, experience, judgement and wisdom. Things you only find after going through it. Many times if fate has been unkind or if you haven't learned the lessons well enough. It's a risk that you have to take.

That isn't to say that some people aren't attracted to shyness or vulnerability. Some are. And those relationships might even work.

This isn't also to say that self-love and confidence are locked in once you find them. They come, and they go, with life experiences.

The problem for hopeless romantics is that they've idealized love. And they go looking for that feeling, that idealization they've spent their lives reading about, fantasizing about and being fed carefully curated media about. And they're quick to be disappointed when they find out that real life doesn't work like that. People don't work like that. Relationships don't work like that.

Be prepared to be alone for the rest of your life. Learn to be ok being alone for the rest of your life. When that is true, then....you're finally ready for a relationship. Everything else is just a desperate search for a construct you yourself have created, and which you will likely not find out there the way you imagined it. You basically have to unlearn being a hopeless romantic while you look for/wait for a partner. Be a hopeless romantic once you've actually gotten into a relationship, sure. But being a hopeless romantic while looking for a relationship is a surefire way to get disappointed by reality on a regular basis. Some people get very lucky to find something that really works early on or easily. But most people have to do a lot of hard work and get exposed to what they don't want many times before they zero in on what is real and works for them.

Per the other thread where we're talking about stuff like this, is where my attitude has settled over the last few years. Once you've seen enough triviality, you start learning to dismiss it quickly instead of over-investing in the wrong thing.

Because again, hopeless romantics feel that the ONLY thing in life they're missing is love to make them feel fulfilled. And that's a trap they will walk into, time and again, until they realize that fulfillment starts before you ever even connect with someone.

Put it this way: the average person isn't attracted to someone whose happiness depends on them. They are attracted to someone who already enjoys their life and likes themselves. Desperation isn't attractive or appealing to good relationships (it is to abusive ones) whether it's people seeking each other, or people seeking a thing (like marriage, family, children, getting established, travel and adventure, etc...)

[bloop_bleep]

My thoughts are spiraling on how my love life is going. Or the fact that there isn't one, and never has been one.

The hopeless romantic in me just wants to be loved and to love. To find someone. I am quite surprised how intense this yearning gets sometimes. I am not someone who feels intensely very often (surprising, I know). I am 20 though, so it might be just the instincts instead of anything really profound.

But the logical part of me quietly points out that this theoretical lover won't fall from the ceiling and into my arms. It says that the chances of me even mustering up the emotional energy to form a crush are slim at best. Chances of me actually acting on it, improbable. And me managing to not completely ruin it by being my autistic self in that epsilon chance of those two previous prerequisites being fulfilled? Impossible. I might as well wait for them to actually fall from the ceiling.

And then the paranoia kicks in. What if I am just... fundamentally unlovable? What if my qualities are just... undesirable? Or just straight up unacceptable?

Logical me supplies that there is no reason for me to think this way. That this is something everyone else also feels, and that it isn't the end of the world. Maybe this is just normal for neurodivergent young adults? Or for all young adults to varying degrees? I am not a teenager; I know my problems are uncommon, not unique.

But I can't shake the feeling.

Hey, I can commiserate. I am 19 and all of my romantic endeavors have not panned out. My first date was a few months ago and I didn't get a second one. I think about what it could mean sometimes. I long for romance sometimes pressingly. It's a common consideration to me.

In my case the thoughts mostly come to the suggestion that maybe I am a little ugly, or not handsome often enough. Or that I am annoying or my accent is offputting. Though these are more like self-service to indulge my romanticism. They aren't pervasive in my daily life.