My doctor's making me take prenatal vitamins and a couple of other ones cuz my recent blood charts were so bad after a bout with COVID, so I'm tasked with improving my diet :I But the good stuff that my stupid body can handle to eat costs... at least here ...
I'm wondering if it's insecurity on their behalf, which as someone who's pretty self-confident nowadays I find really offputting. I'm just glad I still have these forums.
I think it's just different social norms... some of it will be about age. There is a subset of trans women who after a very long time of being in a role that they don't want, finally get what they wanted, which was to be a girlboss, queen bee, princess, or meangirl.
I don't get along with cis or trans people who want to be those things, but they've got a right to be those things, and trans people who are like that shouldn't get any more penalty than their cisgender counterparts. To me you're saying something like: "I went into a female-only space and there are some weirdly harsh rules." Well, yeah, it's like that sometimes. There are also cis female type spaces/friendgroups/whatever that are more or less exactly the same. Part of the distinction is political (trans oppression) but part of this just sounds like the Mean Girls movie where they decide that today everyone's wearing pink and then the next day it's ponytails. It's ... it's normal among a small segment of the population. Some women are just Like That.
... so just go look for other groups, there's a lot out there.