I suspect you both may be maintaining the relationship because it’s easier than breaking it off.
Well, yes. From what he stated, the only reason he's still in the relationship is because he doesn't have anywhere else to stay.
Sure, but even having said that there's still
some emotional component left. I do care about her, it's just... Being together isn't doing anyone any favors.
Still not looking forward to that conversation though, when its time comes. I just feel guilty about running around behind her back to arrange an escape plan, especially seeing as a couple people have indicated that the "correct" thing to do would be to officially break things off and
then start apartment hunting from the comfort of her own home.
Thing is... I honestly don't know if she'd let me stay in her studio apartment with her if I broke it off. I also
definitely don't trust myself to find and lock down an apartment in under two weeks, especially considering it's taken me close to two years at this point. Additionally, even
if I was allowed to stay and even
if I got things done in short order... I seriously doubt that those days would do either of us any good.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Still feel guilty though, because I have a notorious avoidance streak and there almost certainly is a touch of that subconsciously going into my reasoning.
What's really sad? The past couple days have actually been fairly alright. She's been cheerful and we've been getting along. Which makes me doubt, again, that I really gave this relationship "a proper chance" before deciding on my own that it was time to bring it to a close. I suppose that's why I'm five years into a relationship that's been varyingly unhappy for... About four years.