I actually think the problem is reciprocal. Both of you harbour emotions - anger, regret, whatever it may be -
But anger leads to hatred
And hatred leads to suffering.
We must eschew the lesser emotions if we are to achieve non-suffering, peaceful coexistence.
Which Highmaxs' ex does not seem to understand.
I've tried to talk to her about it. If I did something to upset her that she never told me I did, or something like that. It's never anything, and she made a point to say how if there WAS a problem, she wouldn't tell me anyway. This is gone beyond levels of trying to reason.
She's already been talking to mutual friends about it, but no one wants to get involved despite her trying to do so because she wants a mediator on how things get sorted out
How bad is it that you have to get a third party to come in to fix your problems because you don't want to handle them? There's no way this is gonna end well unless during this week, someone else steps in and actually gets her to stop being so goddamn juvinille. Who the hell gets so upset and worked up over asking how you're doing and then making a point to say "if I did have a problem, I wouldn't tell you"? My ex apparently.
I know it's a week in between but she's a charging bull. If she has her mind set on something, she's not gonna change course unless there's a brick wall in the way, then she'll dance around it until she can continue doing what she was doing. It's why over our first actual fight, she broke up with me without a second thought or explanation. Just that it's over, handed me the stuff I loaned her, and that's was it
I'm not gonna fake being friends with someone during group gatherings because she doesn't want to put effort into, you know, being a decent human being. It's an excuse to show up and enjoy playing in games I DM without having to deal with me