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[Spehss _]

I'm aware of that, I guess you could call this part of my "Jesus Josh stop taking life so seriously, you're killing yourself with your own dire temperament" plan.
[snip]
I just want to get out of this rut in my life. I want to destroy the person that I am, and become a new me. That's perhaps far outside of the scope of a stupid app, or the help of any person, I'm just not sure what to do so taking wild guesses and swings in the dark seems to be my best option.

Ah, I see. Yeah, Tinder is something new to try for that then. I agree, if you just want to get out of a rut, trying new things seems like the best way.

Though honestly, every free dating website seems to cater to hookup culture

Good point.

[Baffler]

-snip-

Spehss kinda beat me to it, but Tinder does not have what (it sounds like) you want. It's basically just a meetup app for STI exchange enthusiasts (by design!), not someplace you go to find an actual relationship, and definitely not someplace you go to improve yourself. If you want to break out of a rut, you should look to your coworkers (or classmates if you're still in school) and neighbors. Talk to them more and go out and do things with them, if you aren't already. That's not always easy, but it's much more rewarding than screwing around with internet dating people who're just shopping for something and don't give a shit about anything about you except what you can offer them.

[JoshuaFH]

Maybe you're right, the whole thing, on some level, strikes me as extremely naive and stupid. I just feel like I have to do *something*, and opportunities in real life are so rare, fleeting, intimidating, and often promising but are actually dead ends. Perhaps it's another aspect of my negative perspective on life to simply give up on the real, old fashioned way of doing things.

[Spehss _]

Whatever you decide to do, better to try than not try.

[Dunamisdeos]

Whatever you decide to do, better to try than not try.

Basically this will get you where you want to go. Default option should be "try it anyway". You at least will never be stagnant.

[hector13]

Fucking fucking dumb fucking shit idiot... I fucked up today, hard. Something so retardedly stupid it shouldn't even... I don't even know how to finish that sentence.

I had a meeting with my current job/career counselor today, where we rehashed a few of the things we go over every time... What am I interested in (don't know, don't have any experience to formulate an opinion from), what am I cut out for, what can be reasonable to expect, that sort of thing.

There was a job listing for a substitute teacher of some kind, no specialization necessary, only real requirement was "some higher education", which is a vague enough statement to potentially be fudged.

This led to him asking some random questions with regards to basic competence and education, for the potential application of teaching young kids.

Started with a little chat about how I could probably teach English due to my command of the language (something I'm historically good at, but I can't substantiate. I know the right things, but I don't know how I know it's right), and after that was a quick question of my experience with math. I basically never got into any level of algebra (effectively just the concept of letters as unknowns/variables), but I at least knew the four most basic operations. "So you know your multiplication tables?" "Sure. Some better than others, obviously, but..." "So, like, 8x7?"

And I fucked up. I tried working it out, 3x7=21, 21+21=42... And I felt I was taking too long, which fucked up my organization of values, and I ended up answering "50" (forgetting which "side" of the equation I was working from).

"Fifty-...?"

Wait, shit, I goofed. Of course there were two eights left over, not just one (I'm not even going to try and show how I reached that conclusion, I don't know and don't really want to).

"58"


This was after he'd gone on kind of a ramble about how it's entirely possible to find something for me, because while I may not have the work experience or certificates of formal education, but if he may be so bold as to make such a statement; he could tell that I was a rather intelligent individual, and that my IQ likely was up there with the best of them.

So, yeah. Showed him, didn't I? Christ... I'm 28 goddamn years old, and I took way too long being way too wrong with 1st grade math. Nearly as humiliating as that time when I was a teenager and my dad pulled a pop quiz to prove that I was still at least partially competent at anything, and I ended up writing a 3 backwards.


The upside to this is that I'll probably remember what 8x7 is for the next couple days... Gotta look at the positives, yeah?

it's a hard question though. Equally so, you were rather blind-sided by it, so don't be so hard on yourself.

[Grim Portent]

One of my goldfish died suddenly. Seems to have been skin cancer that I hadn't noticed.   

It's got me down a bit because my nephew was the one who picked him, so there was a bit of extra sentimental attachment there.

[Yoink]

I just feel like I have to do *something*, and opportunities in real life are so rare, fleeting, intimidating, and often promising but are actually dead ends.

Go to a gig. See some live music. Doesn't really matter what kind (obviously I would recommend some form of heavy metal) as long as it isn't rap, but live music is basically the best way to meet people, especially for socially awkward types such as we.

If you go on a date with a stranger or to some house party full of strangers you're gonna have to be thinking of shit to say, else you'll wind up sitting there/lurking in a corner feeling pissed off at yourself - at a gig you always have a whole plethora of built-in phrases to fall back on, like "that band was great!", "who are you here to see?", "any idea who's on next/what this band's called?" "the human sacrifice on stage was a bit much..." "where's the toilet in this place?" or "hey bruv sell me some pingas".
Well, the first three, at least.

Plus everyone is most likely happily drunk and enjoying themselves, so any faux pas you somehow manage to make won't be a big deal. Well, unless you go to some hardcore/straightedge show where they are always on the lookout for outsiders to prey upon, I'd say avoid those since the music is trash anyway...

But yeah. You don't need to offer yourself up on the digital dating altar just to "do something". Why not just get out and go see some bands? It's a great way to ease oneself into socialising and get some practice.

[Egan_BW]

If you do that, get some fucking earplugs. Hearing is good, don't lose it.

[Jopax]

God fucking damn it

[Kagus]

God fucking damn it

Aww man... Well, hey, at least it ain't cancer, right? That's something.

[ChairmanPoo]

ugh.

*becomes suddenly self conscious about right eye twitches*

[Maximum Spin]

ugh.

*becomes suddenly self conscious about right eye twitches*

"Your eye-twitches make you look fat."

Wait, is that not what you meant?

[McTraveller]

Grandma passed away early this morning.  She was 1089 months old. 

[martinuzz]

Human Rights Watch has urged Dubai to reveal the legal status and whereabouts of princess Latifa bint Mohammed al Maktoum, daughter of Dubai's ruler, as well as president and premier of the UAE, sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid al Maktoum.
Latifa is said to have escaped from Dubai in february, on a yacht sailing under US flag, accompanied by her friend, the Finnish martial art instructor Tiina Jauhiainen, and a Fench-American, Hervé Jaubert, a former French navy officer and spy.
The escape attempt failed, when the yacht was intercepted at 50km from the Indian coast by the Indian coast guard, and UAE navy. According to Jauhiainen and Jaubert, who were released late march, Latifa was taken off the yacht screaming and kicking by special forces.
She has not been heard from since.


In a 40 minute video, Latifa explains why she wants to flee from Dubai.
warning: shocking story
https://youtu.be/UN7OEFyNUkQ

https://beta.volkskrant.nl/nieuws-achtergrond/waar-is-prinses-latifa-dochter-van-de-heerser-van-dubai-~b0d7a2c7/