Don't know where you guys are getting these ideas.
Buddhism is overrated. In practice, is just as woman oppressing and patriarchal as most other religions.
Maybe where Buddhism is practiced by conservative cultures. Can't think of anything I was taught that was patriarchal in nature in Buddhist beliefs themselves. When my teacher went over the situation in Tibet and the Dalai Lama's succession process, he predicted that his next incarnation would be a girl in the Midwest, just to throw everyone for a loop.
The same shit that happens with Christians misinterpreting or deliberately ignoring scripture to use their religion as an excuse for shitty behavior happens with any other religion. And Buddhism varies a lot, with every region having a flavor or two of its own. I mainly learned about Tibetan and Rinzai.
The thing that makes me the most leery about Buddhism is that to have a chance to achieve desertification you basically have to live off of other people's labour. Never trust a religion that says that you, the peasant, have to support the Priviledged Class, but that you as a peasant have no chance to nirvanise because you spend all your time labouring instead of sitting with your head up your arse in a temple somewhere.
I was taught that meditation isn't required or a direct path to enlightenment. It's just one tool. Its main purpose is to teach oneself mindfulness (their term for being mentally focused and pure in the present moment, instead of scattered and fractured over a million thoughts about the past and future). Mindfulness can be maintained at any time, doing anything. Meditation is just a means of practicing and improving your mindfulness, and it's difficult to realize enlightenment without mindfulness. I was told dozens of stories about how different people became enlightened, and not a one of them was during meditation. Several of them were during menial labor. Others were random eureka moments. IIRC some of those eureka moment stories were people who didn't even have much background of temple life or meditation.
Of course, these teachings weren't given to me in the manner that I'm paraphrasing them here. Being direct isn't something they like to do. These are the people who gave us koans, after all. This is just how I came to understand it.