Please do not quote:I'm transgender and only like men. I lie by pretending to be straight, aka "closeted." I never say I'm not single. This is only the casual conversation stuff, never has misrepresentations about marital status, etc, and is necessary because people often don't like gays. I've been told repeatedly to "find a nice girl and settle down," but I just say I'm married to the job or something similar. I have had several (fully informed) girls pretend to be romantically interested in me (see also "beard"). I largely keep to myself, don't step on toes, am quiet, and just don't correct people's assumptions on straightness.
Fraud is a complex topic. I am closeted, because that's how society demanded gay people be for ages. I am shocked at how some schools have changed where kids are more accepting these days. My jaw has literally dropped on a couple occasions. I am in a geographic area that heavily frowns upon gay people as an understatement. My being closeted is a largely harmless lie, from which I gain no material benefit beyond safety, and by which no one else pays any money, that protects me from real and present physical and other harm. Besides, I stopped counting how many times I've been told "I just don't want to see them (gays)." I lived through
Lawrence v Texas (2003), "Don't Ask Don't Tell," and so much more. All I'm going to say is, things have moved rather fast in the last couple years, there is a considerable conservative backlash brewing and I'm just trying not to get smacked by it.
Talking about and quoting are different. It's largely a matter of plausible deniability. If someone quotes me saying I'm gay or whatever, then I'm far more screwed than someone calling me gay or saying I am, etc. Also, I can burn notice my own posts if I have to, but not if you quote function them. This is a limited, narrow focus to achieve a specific goal of me being left alone, not hurting anyone, and my avoiding physical or other harm.
To review, I never say I have a wife and kids. I simply don't say the obvious reason why (gay). That said, people have conversations and ask questions. Some notice when you're an adult, don't stare at women, don't talk about them, don't go on dates, aren't married, and aren't so hideous as to turn women off. The smarter ones who figure it out are usually polite enough not to talk about it.
In a better world, this would not be needed. We don't live in that world.
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