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[NRDL]

Gamedragon, are there any other activities that you can use to make yourself feel better?  Preferably something that's not inherently addictive and self-damaging.

[Felissan]

EDIT: Oops, wrong thread

[Arx]

Usually it's done as a cry for help, and as an attempt to feel in control of something. Especially when in a life-situation that feels bad, out of your control, and/or hopeless.

It's affect regulation more often than a cry for help. Self-harm literally has almost identical effects to taking antidepressants. I say this as someone who stopped a matter of days after starting on sertraline.

Gamedragon, are there any other activities that you can use to make yourself feel better?

Seconding this, and I assure you there are! Any form of exercise, especially cardiovascular exercise. I used to do high-intensity bodyweight/muscle-building exercises sometimes instead of cutting. If you push hard enough, it hurts. But it's good for you.

[apiks]

Cutting releases the body's painkillers called endorphins which feel really good. It is one way of coping, though not recommnded.

I third the notion to find something else to do. Arx's advice regarding weight lifting is very good. As a rule of thumb, to avoid the pits of depression go with "always try to be doing something". That in itself is sometimes very hard to start doing.

[Tiruin]

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Since PMs are a bit slow, you've mentioned that there are folks over at your school that you can meet and get help from--inquire about the process of CBT or look it up yourself (and follow-it-up with aid from professionals who can guide you along with it), alongside what others have said here, you can control and occupy the thought process with alternative action and mindsets. It's both avoiding and facing aversive and negative feelings that may come due to environmental stress, pressure and otherwise that's part of the goal. Keep those aids consistent in mind, and reinforce them.

[Shadowlord]

I Am Not A Therapist, but my suggestion: Cry
Easier said than done, you may think, but you can find things that will make you cry.

No guarantee that any of these work for you, but I think the first two (which are japanese VNs with english translations) are likely to since they're basically expertly designed to create that emotional response:
I cried a lot playing Steins;Gate (the VN), in the second half of the game. (I don't know if the anime has the same effect, also, the english port I played was from JAST; the one on steam is from MAGES instead (I saw some reviews that said the translation was worse).)
Also, 'planetarian ~the reverie of a little planet~' (which is on steam) made me cry too.
And listening to Loreena McKennitt's song "The Highwayman"
And listening to Leonard Cohen's song "You Want It Darker," and less so (tearing up instead of crying) Jeff Buckley's cover of Cohen's song "Hallelujah"

P.S. http://www.lifehack.org/307964/5-reasons-why-people-who-cry-lot-are-mentally-strong

[Rolan7]

I don't know whether it's relevant, but I feel a lot better today after I road my rusty bike 15 miles to do some errands.
I haven't done *aerobic* exercise in a while (not to mention the air's full of smoke).  My everything hurts, especially my hands and the place a bicycle seat goes.  My right leg keeps panging as if I pulled something.  I had to pull over and gasp for over a minute on one hill, I was actually a little scared of passing out (exercise-induced asthma).

All that hurt is making me feel a lot better, and instead of new knuckle scars I'm just a little bit more in shape.  The endorphins were good too (though I'm glad I didn't post when I was feeling them... jeez, some of the thoughts I had!)
It's also completely replacing my urge to drink.  Exercise:  The best type of self-harm!

[TheBiggerFish]

All of these and talk to someone.

[Iceblaster]

Fuck I just need to vent today. Not necessarily stuff that's recent, but stuff regardless.

Spoiler: Stuff that probably doesn't matter in the long term (click to show/hide)

Fuck I hate how shitty my self esteem is. I mean, goddamnit. Ever since that blow up last year, I've just been down the shitter. Less talkative to the few people I do feel comfortable talking to, and exactly zero talking I don't have to do to people I probably should be talking to. Because fuck is it hard to make myself feel like asking questions or saying stuff won't get me in trouble or won't make me feel like absolute shit.

Next up is the fact I hate the opinions of the people around me. Especially my parents. I mean, fuck it makes me not want to even talk about things with them. Islam is fundamentally flawed and violent, gay people are hrorible, gay marriage is bad, abortion is a black and white issue(i honestly have no concrete position because fuck is it hard to keep myself steady on that.), and fuck. I don't know. honestly, even on stuff that doesn't matter it's hard. like we were having a discussion while dinner was cooking about stuff. turned to war. france was brought up. i mentioned that they've only really surrendered quickly in ww2 off the top of my head. but nooo apparently looking stuff up like the obvious ww1 and not to mention all the other stuff that isn't really mentioned. then a bunch of other stuff and fuck. changing people's view points is hard.

Finally, I honestly wish I knew why I felt so down some days. Like, seriously. There's no reason for me to just feel sad some days but yet it happens. Then I end up getting into these moments of thought and they end up dragging me further down into that hole. Then I wonder if the friends I talked to daily before will even be willing to reopen communication after I get my independence internet wise back. I mean, fuck, I reset the password and got a new one that is completely different from any other password I've used. That's how far I've gone to make sure this one forum is fine. Hell, I did the same to my original reddit account and deleted every post and then nuked the account. Just so that if my parents wanted more ammo, they couldn't just look over that reddit account to find stuff I've mentioned. I mean, I've chilled out on my '2euphoric4u' phase, but shit just thinking that one day my parents will find out I'm still an atheist chills me. I mean, I'm not as hostile than I used to be. Hell, I don't even care what other people believe, but hell if they won't accept it. Seeing as how they reacted upon reading it the first time, it'd still be the same 'i bet you think you know everything' 'i'm sure you're just too smart for me' shit. Because obviously that's how it is.

Blegh. I dunno. Honestly, I'll probably end up forgetting about this whole post in an hour, but getting it off my chest at least makes me feel like less of a bottled up eternally angry teenager who's quickly having to try not to be too much of a fuck up so that when he gets set into the adult world, he doesn't die or something.

[Boatsniper]

I found this video yesterday, and I want to share it on the chance it helps.

[spümpkin]

I Am Not A Therapist, but my suggestion: Cry
Easier said than done, you may think, but you can find things that will make you cry.

No guarantee that any of these work for you, but I think the first two (which are japanese VNs with english translations) are likely to since they're basically expertly designed to create that emotional response:
I cried a lot playing Steins;Gate (the VN), in the second half of the game. (I don't know if the anime has the same effect, also, the english port I played was from JAST; the one on steam is from MAGES instead (I saw some reviews that said the translation was worse).)
Also, 'planetarian ~the reverie of a little planet~' (which is on steam) made me cry too.
And listening to Loreena McKennitt's song "The Highwayman"
And listening to Leonard Cohen's song "You Want It Darker," and less so (tearing up instead of crying) Jeff Buckley's cover of Cohen's song "Hallelujah"

P.S. http://www.lifehack.org/307964/5-reasons-why-people-who-cry-lot-are-mentally-strong

This is good, but also: Smile

Don't just do one, do both. Find something that makes you happy, and then makes you sad. Find something you can get involved in.

watch gravity falls but seriously, watch it, it's lighthearted, but still manages to convey a lot of emotions. Also isn't that long.

I also highly recommend Over the Garden Wall. PM me if you want links and I'll find them, but yeah, watching cartoons generally helps me feel better.

[Dozebôm Lolumzalìs]

I just remembered that my maternal grandpa is extremely homophobic. Yeah, that one.

Welp, there's a decent chance of that relationship (admittedly strained already) going away.

[TheBiggerFish]

*hugs Iceblaster*

One:You are an awesome person.

Two:Good luck.

I just remembered that my maternal grandpa is extremely homophobic. Yeah, that one.

Welp, there's a decent chance of that relationship (admittedly strained already) going away.

*hugs*

[BlackHeartKabal]

Pfft, what's the point of CPS, DSS, or whatever those services are? They're just decorations so people can feel good about having a useless organization to take care of a horrific problem. Completely worthless.

[TheBiggerFish]

...What happened?