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[hector13]

What happened, if you don't mind answering?

[The Beast]

I'm a goddamn loser and there's no helping it.

If you think you are a loser then thats what you become brother.
There is helping it! You need to do the work though.
Yes I see your pain, yes I understand it. Sure bringing people back home especially a girl can be a strange moment for yourself, don't make it stop you though cause the right girl wont care and it can be a good personality filter.
Take it slow man, Im in a personal slump after leaving home then having to come back.
Yes I have had girls at home, yes its strange AND yes she loved how funny my father is. I just had to be quiet.

You can achieve so much when you set your mind to it.
Power through this emotional break and get yourself happy before you consider others needs.
Its a mistake we make as social creatures.

P.S you need cooking advice ask anyone in the Kitchen thread, I can even help you.
Next time you feel down and want to post something ask for help directly on what you need help for.
Haha you are only 20 man. Be worried if you are 30 and cant cook/live at 'home'

We are here to help eachother, you just need to ask.

[TheBiggerFish]

What happened, if you don't mind answering?

i do mind, honestly
it was bad

[NRDL]

*Hugpats* to you TBF, of all people who deserve one.  Whatever it was, it can't have been as bad as it seemed.

[TheBiggerFish]

it was though

it was exactly as bad as it seemed

either way i am going to try and sleep now

[itisnotlogical]

I'm a goddamn loser and there's no helping it.

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the problem isnt that wacky hijinks will ensue if i bring a rough and tumble girl home, it's that my mom has panic disorder and can't leave the house by herself and is always telling me that she might die in the middle of the night and reminding me that I'm societally/morally obligated to take care of her for the rest of her days and not do anything that would mean separating, as if I didn't feel conflicted enough about the fact that she can't even make it to walmart without me in the passenger seat. She refuses professional help, as if drinking enough bone broth and doing enough qigong meditation will cure her problems, except she doesn't even do that. She just wants me to be an unbreakable stone for her to pound all her problems against until she keels over. If I even suggest I'm upset, I'm villainized and get the cold shoulder for a day or two, and the word gets spread to the immediate family too.

I'm very self conscious about the fact I still live with my mother, the only reason I can talk about it here is that I know none of us will never see eachother in real life since it's a big source of shame for me. Most people I know my age have roommates or live in dorms or at least a shithole ghetto hole-in-the-wall they call their own. I'm uncomfortable when people talk about cars because I still can't drive. I spend two hours each way riding the bus to the campus because it's the only semblance of doing something for myself in my life. Secretly I wonder if everybody believes I'm some sort of half-autistic manchild that wouldn't last a second on their own, or that I'm a horrible shithead for not 100% wanting to be a caretaker for the rest of my life.

I always get advice to "just move out" but fucking where? I might make 20 cents above minimum wage if I stick with something for a few years. And what then? I've fucked us both over for no real reason other than to make myself feel better. All of my brothers and sisters are very independent, almost all of them live outside the house and had their own families by their 30s. My 30s are only ten years away, and one day I'll wake up and those ten years will be gone and I'm terrified of that day.

[Empiricist]

Fish, you really aren't as bad as you think you are. I only wish I could make you see how amazing you are

[scriver]

Sounds like your siblings aren't carrying their share of your family problems, instead leaving at all up to you. And that's not cool of them, and you should tell them that.

[Tiruin]

Fish, you really aren't as bad as you think you are. I only wish I could make you see how amazing you are

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The same goes with anyone who use negative generalizing labels to define themselves They aren't definitive, but they are conceptual, and everyone works with concepts for definition.

[Putnam]

Speaking of which, I don't know if I'm completely uncreative or everyone else is just as uncreative and I'm just better at seeing what I'm plagiarizing whenever I try to make things.

[Shook]

As i always say, good artists borrow, great artists steal everything that isn't nailed down. :v

see what i did there

In other news, i'm sick for the second time this week, with what even seems like the same sickness as before. I'd consider it an achievement if it didn't suck.

[Kot]

As i always say, good artists borrow, great artists steal everything that isn't nailed down. :v

This is very true. I mean, as long as you're not taking something made by someone else and showing it off as yours you're doing the same thing that everyone does. If it looks cool - take it, add something yours to it or add it to something yours and THERE YOU GO YOU MADE SOMETHING COOL TOO! Edit, change, be inspired - technically you can't really come up with something completly 100% original - everything you make is inspired by something, sometimes the inspirations are very hard to be connected to the final material and usually you make something out of many, many things, but in the end you're just rearanging the Coca-Cola bottle into assault rifle or making heavy metal version of Shchedryk with lyrics taken out of cooking book. And remember that whatever you're using as source material is proably ripped off someone else too. This is something you notice after a while, after seeing arts of twenty different people in exactly the same pose and so on. If someone says this is not the case they proably don't even realize they're doing this.

I am 100% guilty of this too, by the way.

[Rose]

Try as I might, I never manage to reduce my monthly grocery bill.

[TheBiggerFish]

Try as I might, I never manage to reduce my monthly grocery bill.

How have you tried to do so so far?

[MetalSlimeHunt]

Now this is a radical strategy, but have you tried eating your tinfoil instead of using it to preserve food?

I hear it's pretty alright, and very high in...tin...