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[LordBaal]

Thanks for the support pals. I feel I don't deserve it. She doesn't even want me to touche her. I'll give her space to process things. She doesn't believe it was only sexting and told me she replied the person in Facebook and wait to see what it reply or send to her. She asked about the video. Im seriously thinking about asking for it to prove her is not me. Since is not me! I never done that. Today will be a bad day. Hell if feel a bad month or even a bad year or life is ahead of me.
I'm also sick and have 3 days of recovery (not work)

[TheBiggerFish]

All I can do is hope.  But I will hope for you.  I hope things get better.

[Kot]

I think perhaps because the modern usage of the f-word is in reference to gay people, despite its other uses, I don't think it's unreasonable, especially considering Toady doesn't appear to wield the banhammer unless there are multiple violations.

I got banned for that word when I used it once, though.
It was just for a week or ten days so I got better.

[Solifuge]

Look at it this way: Whatever happens now, you did the right thing. Whatever happens, you'll be able to walk with your back straight, to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning. You didn't do what was easy but dishonest, you did was was hard but right. For that alone you can be proud of yourself.

Seconding this. Adding that I'm sorry that coming out with the truth like that can paradoxically make people trust you less. I've never been married, but it sounds like a minor infidelity to inspire that kind of reaction in you both; the bigger issue is probably the act of keeping it a secret. It seems your partner expects more and worse secrets around every corner now.

I hope you two can have a conversation about this, and how you're both feeling in the wake of it. If nothing else happened, I hope you can communicate that too, and establish that foundation of trust and openness. Wishing you the best.

[ChairmanPoo]

I'm dealing with a family in which a family member is seriously ill and treatment options are very limited, and relatives seem pathologically unable to understand this. This is causing me significant amounts of stress.

[TheBiggerFish]

*hugs ChairmanPoo*

Just focus on treating the patient.  I don't think you're in the right field to treat selective listening.

[Tack]

That sucks dude. Sometimes people just don't want to know, even if they should.

[Silthuri]

Mental stability is going to shit. I've skipped way too much class for it being this early in the semester and even missed a couple assignments because of this. I don't really like any of the counselors at my college, so I'm waiting for group to start up so I can maybe have somewhere I can physically talk to people who actually understand what it feels like. Damn, I miss my first therapist. She was amazing. I could tell her anything and she would listen. The others I've talked to speak to me like I'm going to blow up or they've just repeated "how does that make you feel?" over and over. The one that I started seeing after my original therapist left makes me sick.

Add on having acquaintances who I have to socialize with regularly which is very draining for me. And my dad has been pushing me to go straight to law school next fall because "go straight into it while it's all fresh in your mind and you can handle the stress." I am not handling the stress well at all.

Oh yeah. And I've been fighting with my boyfriend. Not sure how much longer we're going to be together.

I feel like I'm just one more fuckup away from breaking to pieces.

[TheBiggerFish]

*hugs Silthuri*

If you want to talk to me, I'm here.

I can't promise I'll be much help, but I'll try.

[BlackHeartKabal]

In all honesty I can only really consider every day a loss and I have to watch everything collapse so I can gauge how big of a loss it is. I'm sitting on weeks worth of unstarted chores and schoolwork that I can't even start because I haven't any energy and I know I'll fail if I try. I couldn't even speak to my councelor today, not like talking does anything. I should just dive into traffic and improve everyone's lives in a few seconds.

[NRDL]

Please don't.  You definitely would not be improving ours by your absence. 

[TheBiggerFish]

My life wouldn't be improved by the loss of yours.

Try doing just one chore or assignment.  See if that goes.  Just one thing at a time, not the monolith.

You don't know you'll fail until you've tried.

[BlackHeartKabal]

My life wouldn't be improved by the loss of yours.

Please don't.  You definitely would not be improving ours by your absence.

Sure as hell doesn't seem like it.

Try doing just one chore or assignment.  See if that goes.  Just one thing at a time, not the monolith.

You don't know you'll fail until you've tried.

Doing one thing is a waste of time. All or nothing.

Oh, so try, fail, and then give up. Got it.

[NRDL]

That little voice in your head, telling you all this?  Yeah, fuck that. 

Your mind is your enemy.  Always will be, same as everyone else. 

Please don't do anything you'll regret.  And you WILL regret it. 

[BlackHeartKabal]

... I'll never understand this compassion people have for me.

I guess I have to keep trying until things are right for others sake...