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[hector13]

I don't think it's daily angst, more a constant stream of unfiltered awfulness directed at yourself. Seek help dude, for serious. This is not a normal way to go about your existence.

Is the consequences of actually speaking to the school counselor and maybe getting some help to pull yourself out of the quagmire actually going to be worse than going through this every single day?

[Orange Wizard]

Gd's school counsellor is unsuitable IIRC, and he's in an awkward position with his parents.

What you can do is contact someone - whatever youth services exist in your area, maybe a friend, maybe some random internet dude... point is, you need to address the issue because it is not going to solve itself.

Take it to the BLM thread while it's still open, people.

It was short-lived, to be sure

[Tiruin]

I don't think it's daily angst, more a constant stream of unfiltered awfulness directed at yourself. Seek help dude, for serious. This is not a normal way to go about your existence.

Is the consequences of actually speaking to the school counselor and maybe getting some help to pull yourself out of the quagmire actually going to be worse than going through this every single day?

Gamedragon--one big thing about one's self-hate or such, is the thoughts they apply onto themselves. Self-hate lies in the thoughts directed at you, which includes the conclusions you make about yourself. At times, this can include what you see about yourself that goes in a pseudo-cyclic observation and conclusion cycle (eg I'm not that active, thus I dislike my lack of activity, and then certain demeaning thoughts along that line hit me, then that maintains the lack of activity because of the feelings of futility and otherwise coming from those ideas), although this is just one way about it.

Please contact those to help you. The ideas that keep you at an unhealthy feeling are not permanent, nor should any conclusions be drawn from them. Also please don't spoiler your posts--every little bit in your actions is important here. If it's venting, that's ok--follow it up on your part there with ways to face that. If it's something you actually believe in yourself (ie I'M A PIECE OF SHIT!), stop that thinking, and move from it in a better light. None of us can help you other than giving details--details better given in physical contact with other people there. Intrusive thoughts aren't your friends.

Gd's school counsellor is unsuitable IIRC, and he's in an awkward position with his parents.

NEXT BIG THING: If you feel the current mental health professional is unsuitable to your comfortability--you can INQUIRE for a referral to someone else. A person within this profession, instead of the usual assumed reaction of a {bad reaction}, will go along with this, because it's something noted in the ethical guidelines applicable to the profession as a whole, within bounds of professionability; counselors can understand that at times, the people that come to them may be uncomfortable due to several issues, even if these issues may not actually be what's happening, so they bring other people to help you. Otherwise, trying again with your counselor won't mostly make anything worse. There's a big difference in professionality here in that they aren't out to 'get you' no matter how awkward or {other uncomfy feeling} you think about or apply to yourself.

[Sirus]

Take it to the BLM thread while it's still open, people.

It was short-lived, to be sure

Wish I could say I was surprised. Some topics just set folks off even in a relatively chill place.

[NRDL]

Lost another amateur fight.  Unanimous decision.  Wasn't anywhere close, I got my ass kicked.  Nothing to do but keep training, it's still pretty painful watching the footage.

[hector13]

Lost another amateur fight.  Unanimous decision.  Wasn't anywhere close, I got my ass kicked.  Nothing to do but keep training, it's still pretty painful watching the footage.

Footage is there to be learned from, man. It's hard to look at and analyze a failure, especially one you think is abject, but you can figure out what didn't go well and take steps to change it.

[MaximumZero]

Lost another amateur fight.  Unanimous decision.  Wasn't anywhere close, I got my ass kicked.  Nothing to do but keep training, it's still pretty painful watching the footage.

If it helps, I've been there, man.

[Reelya]

Reading some articles about the problems with Star Wars VII, I've realized that I basically hate all modern blockbuster movies / franchise reboots. They make me long for the shitty blockbusters of yesteryear such as Jurassic Park, and even Waterworld which I *thought* were big-budget trash when they came out, but look like charming art films in comparison to the new stuff.

Basically new American action films are a bunch of extravagant action set-pieces with only a tenuous plot to tie them together, and in between the set pieces they seem like they're rushing to set the next bit up. And as some people have noted about current superhero movies and also Star Wars, the movies feel less about telling the story in the movie, and more about "tie ins" to previous movies and upcoming movies. Like Marvel with their "Phase X" movies which imply you need to have watched all the concurrent stories from the previous phase to know what's going on. Or Star Wars VII entire plot revolves around chasing a McGubbin very similar to the original Leia's message in original Star Wars, except in the original, the payoff was in the movie itself, but now the entire plot is basically a plug for the next movie, with a cliffhanger ending.

This makes me sad. Can't look forward to stuff like the live action Ghost in the Shell because I'm certain I'll hate it, because that's just how big budget movies are made these days. Give me recent anime sci-fi/fantasy films like The Wolf Children or  Patema Inverted instead. It's a sad day when cartoons have more realized characters than live action.

[Yoink]

Man, I actually liked the new Star Wars film- which is unusual for me since I usually hate any film that popular, ha.

[KingofstarrySkies]

...how is that sad

[Orange Wizard]

Reading some articles about the problems with Star Wars VII, I've realized that I basically hate all modern blockbuster movies / franchise reboots. They make me long for the shitty blockbusters of yesteryear such as Jurassic Park, and even Waterworld which I *thought* were big-budget trash when they came out, but look like charming art films in comparison to the new stuff.

Let's be honest, there are way fewer problems with Episode VII than any of the older films. Lucas was more ambitious with his storytelling, but he also didn't know what the hell he was doing.

[ECrownofFire]

Man, I actually liked the new Star Wars film- which is unusual for me since I usually hate any film that popular, ha.

Fuckin' hipster.

[EnigmaticHat]

Reading some articles about the problems with Star Wars VII, I've realized that I basically hate all modern blockbuster movies / franchise reboots. They make me long for the shitty blockbusters of yesteryear such as Jurassic Park, and even Waterworld which I *thought* were big-budget trash when they came out, but look like charming art films in comparison to the new stuff.

Let's be honest, there are way fewer problems with Episode VII than any of the older films. Lucas was more ambitious with his storytelling, but he also didn't know what the hell he was doing.

The are two pretty egregious problems I see with the new one:

Spoiler: actual spoilers (click to show/hide)

It being a clone of episode 4 with all the details changed is pretty bad.  I understand why it was necessary, but its still pretty bad.
The Death Star+ is a massive plot tumor.  If you removed that, the movie would make a lot more sense, have better pacing, and not have an instantly forgotten tragedy scene (although that last bit is hella present in the original trilogy).  Like seriously, its such a better movie before that thing shows up.

Its funny, although it doesn't make a difference really, that JJ Abrams rebooted Star Trek and then sort-of rebooted Star Wars.  To nerds those represent opposed attitudes towards sci-fi and dueling franchises, but I guess to studio executives they're similar enough for the same guy to handle both.

[Rolan7]

Personally I couldn't stand his reimagining of Star Trek.  Didn't ruin my childhood or anything, but only because bad reboots never "ruin childhoods".  It's totally fine that people like them, I was just personally disgusted by the first and won't watch the rest.

Seems like a decent choice for Star Wars, though.  He isn't full-on Michael Bay, but...  I think he's better suited to Star Wars.  My brother *loves* Star Wars and agrees (and agrees that Abrams new "Trek" at least took absurd liberties), so that's a good sign.

[Orange Wizard]

The are two pretty egregious problems I see with the new one:

Spoiler: actual spoilers (click to show/hide)

It being a clone of episode 4 with all the details changed is pretty bad.  I understand why it was necessary, but its still pretty bad.
The Death Star+ is a massive plot tumor.  If you removed that, the movie would make a lot more sense, have better pacing, and not have an instantly forgotten tragedy scene (although that last bit is hella present in the original trilogy).  Like seriously, its such a better movie before that thing shows up.

Spoiler (click to show/hide)

Story structure was, as you say, pretty necessary. Not ideal but it comes with the territory.

Death Star Next was a massive plot device more than anything else, it dragged the new characters together and provided something familiar for people to engage with. Not a great decision, but I don't think it ruined the film or anything drastic.

I also thought Abrams' handling of Star Trek was atrocious, his style isn't suited to that setting at all.